I miss my old life😭

I totally felt this my goodness!

Anyway you could ever do something part time or are you staying home due to childcare circumstances?

I feel that so much ! Your not alone with this one

i’ve never lived alone i went from living with my mom to my husband. i understand girly. you’re not a bad mom

No girl, same. It's okay, I was literally thinking the same this this past week. Have you tried doing a full break with just your husband, if you're comfortable without the baby. I just did and it was the mental break I really needed. Nothing too long, but 3 days can really do the mind good.

You’re not the only one girly. I be thinking the same thing. I worked since 14yrs and lived alone since 17yrs. Now I’m back at my mom’s house with my kids. No income. No job. Nothing that I did in my past life is the same anymore. I miss it. And feel guilty for missing it since I always wanted baby’s of my own

You are not a bad mom!

You miss buying things with your own money, maybe you could do some side money type something and have some money of your own?

I totally feel you on the losing weight. I am still shrinking myself and am down a lot on weight numbers and I'm in between sizes and trying to find what sizes and styles fit what I want.

I could’ve written this myself. I highly suggest you make your husband set up an automatic spending allowance for you every month. Where it’s just for you. Even if money is tight, he can set aside at least $100 a month for you to decide how to spend and when on your own terms. You need this or you need to work part time. You’re gonna go crazy otherwise.

I work 3 nights a week as a server, my shifts are about 4 hours a piece. It’s actually really good money (depending on where you live) but more importantly as a sahm the rest of the time, it has given me some autonomy back. ❤️ you are not a bad mama for feeling this way btw 😘

Being a good mom requires sacrifice and SAHM is even more sacrifice. sacrifice means loss and with loss we experience grief. You should grieve your loss of your old self. This might be an even bigger sense of loss if you’re hyper-independent based on upbringing. doesn’t mean you can’t have parts of your old life again (working part/full time/creating other you-time) in the future. This a season and it IS challenging for those of us who were once so independent, and it is beautiful, and it will pass and turn into something new. Have you thought of asking your husband for an account with your own money? I do this, bc it made me upset to have to ask for money. I work hard all day and his money is our money. I stay home to parent our child so another person doesn’t. That’s how I see it. It’s helped to automatically have money in my bank account that I can do what I want with. Without asking for permission/money. I also started online counseling for this big change and its helped a ton.

You’re a great mama. Your feelings are valid. Sending you hugs during this hard experience. 🫶🏼

I totally felt this… I am still going through this and your not alone. You got this mama. You just have to find to time to dedicate time for yourself even if it is only 5 minutes. I struggle providing self care to myself and it’s bad🥺

i felt this same way but now working 3 days a week and it feels like the perfect balance maybe try out part time or a remote job or even a side hustle? i have a friend that thrifts clothes then sales the on depop

you have to do what you want because when your kid leaves then all you have is yourself and husband. try to balance it all