Primary parant rant!!!

Is anyone else so tapped out with constantly being the primary parent!?

I work part time, run my own business on the side, and do all drop off/ pick ups, do the after school clubs, housework, dinner, Dr's appointments... the list goes on!

I have a work event that requires an overnight stay and my husband is fuc*ing USELESS!! I've asked him to be available for our kids FOR ONE DAY and he is complaining about it already!

I love my kids and don't begrudge them, but damn I just wish that FOR ONCE my husband would step up and take control 🥴

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You should try to assign him some of these tasks on a regular basis so he can get used to them. Communicate how you’re always feeling tapped out. Unfortunately a lot of men have to be told what to do and we women tend to just take on more responsibilities if we’re not offered help. But you are both the parents at the end of the day and we don’t need to be superwomen.

Sounds like you’re already a single mom. Welcome to the club

Have you considered that a lot of times we do everything because we “don’t wanna hear their mouth” but since we’re subjected to hearing their mouth, whether it’s one day or all the days why don’t we just make it routine like the above poster suggested?

I have a lot of the same feelings, but I just ignore him and be like OK that’s fine. That’s how I feel as well but somebody has to pick up the children.

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