Your toxic MIL books a flight abroad for a holiday on your daughters 1st birthday

So she will not be there. She could have booked any other time. How are you feeling about it?

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I wouldn’t care. I don’t expect anyone except my baby’s father to prioritise my baby above all else 🤷🏻‍♀️
MIL may not have initially realised it was the baby’s 1st birthday when booking the holiday. MIL may not have expected to see baby on their first birthday or feel it’s a big deal as baby won’t remember. It may have been a very good deal to book for that date. Many reasons why she may have booked it for then. I doubt it was on purpose tbh.

Bye bye😂

Depends on the relationship. It sounds like you might be happy she isn't there and that's totally ok!

Don’t care, after all she is toxic. So why would I care.

Why are you creating unnecessary drama for yourself? Just let her be. You've labeled her as toxic to us without giving any context... If it's upsetting to you, then speak up TO HER, but honestly, 1st birthdays are more for the adults than the kid itself. Kid won't remember it and people post on here how "no one showed up"... People show up to what they want to... The grandparents of today are not the same kind you probably grew up with. They love the title of it all, but aren't logging in the hours of the generations past...

Honestly, people who don’t make an effort to be in my daughters life I don’t think about
They miss out on such a special little girl

I would be so freaking happy!!!! A wonderful drama free birthday is the best thing that could happen for my child.

Personally I wouldn’t care. I think the point is, yes the child won’t remember but there will be pictures and she won’t be in them. No matter what that’s the child’s Gma and she should be there, also if she had not that many options like price wise for the holiday or she forgot (which is a terrible excuse) surely she would reach out to
Mum and say she’s so sorry about it.

Yeah she’s toxic but it’s your grandchild’s first bday fgs. Mum has every right to be irritated tbh but I wouldn’t bring it up personally and I wouldn’t even discuss it with dad I’d just carry on and any bday going forward would not extend an invite to her. Let’s stop making excuses for mannerless adults.

If she’s toxic and books the trip “ have fun girl”. Why are you trying to spend more time with her 🤣🤣

If she's toxic then she did me a solid one 🤣

Why would you care for her to be there if she is that toxic person ? Better not to have her around. No? 😃
Also I am a firm believer that grandparents should organise their whole life around their kids and grandkids schedules and events.
If you are pissed over it, I would have my partner have a talk with his mom and see what's up.

It’s my LG’s 1st birthday today and after experiencing the day I would say I wouldn’t care. I haven’t got round to seeing my MIL today so why should I stop her from doing something she wants to do? In the morning we did presents and she had her breakfast and nap, then we went to sea life, then to dinner with my family and home. We were meant to see her after dinner but it was such a busy day and a lot for my LG that it was just too much and she needed to go home to bed. You can’t even guarantee how the day is going to go because they’re still temperamental at this age so it is what it is

Pffffft. Screw her. I wouldn’t even react. Peace ✌🏼

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I've finally done it

I have finally done it. I have finally become the trope, the stereotype.

I have become bitter, resentful, and very overwhelmed and overloaded. I am very unhappy and hit burnout. And I snapped at my husband last night. I work full-time, and work has been very busy so im working late a lot. Im also in grad school. I also have a toddler that has become VERY clingy with me. My husband works shorter days but commutes, so he usually gets home after me by an hour or more. When he gets home, he usually heads to the restroom for at least 30 mins when he gets home. And now my toddler doesnt want anything to do with him. So im doing all the toddler duties until bed. I dont get 5 mins to myself. Not for almost 2 years. I finally hit my wall. I have also, somehow, become my MILs medical ride service and she somehow has an appt every week, it seems?! Shes not sick!! My husband was complaining that he needs to change routine to fit in a workout sometimes, and I lost it. I have been BEGGING for 5 mins to myself for months. I have been telling him how im not good, im going to burn out for months. And between his attitude and him complaining (which really got me b/c he blames me for not being able to work out?! Saying I need help when he gets home so he just cant workout now) I just lost it completely. I told him how unfair my life has become and I have the entire mental and emotional load and it is just not fair. He got mad at me and said "hes trying" when hes literally not trying at all. What do I do?? No one is taking the load from me! And im done and dont know what to do now.
I do not like this version of me.

Is this clever or cruel?

My husband and i were talking and with social media and the internet in general being a terrifying dumpster fire, we are trying to figure out the best way to keep our son safe while still teaching him how to safely be online and moderation.

We landed on the idea of giving him the 90's kid treatment. A computer in the living room for us to keep an eye on what hes doing online, and once we feel hes mature enough to hang with friends without adult supervision he gets a flip phone. When we feel he is responsible enough and he earns and saves up the money for the physical phone, case, and screen cover, then we will be happy to take him to get a smart phone.

I thought this was air tight, but now my brother says its cruel to give a kid a flip phone, and besides he can just use his friends phones at school.

My husband and i remember a time before the internet, and we remember having complete access to something no one understood yet. We saw unspeakable things and are always battling with the urge to put the phone and social media down. I dont want that for my son, especially with his brain so vulnerable still.

If your partners parent passes away

And you and that parent didn't get along are you still go to the funeral?

Not my situation!

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Has anyone else been told it won’t start until May?

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