2.5 year old playing independently

Does she get your full attention at any point in the day or are you generally doing other things?

I find my daughter is more likely to play independently if I'm either in the room and there is an activity set up that is open ended or if I've explained what I'm doing then afterwards give her undivided attention.

Do you get her involved in putting the wash or on making lunch?

Mine 'helps' me with chores and knows there's a set time that I do things e.g. after breakfast she knows I load the dishwasher, clean the sides and usually hoover as well. It took a bit of time to build it up but she knows it happens every morning now so will entertain herself running in and out the room, or play with a toy. Her yoto is great for that sort of thing, she loves to put a story or song on and wander about with it.

She also loves her toddler tower for while I'm making food, I have her help with age appropriate things or just pop the play fruit and veg that you can 'chop' up on the counter! She has a little Henry and Hoovers with me (she used to help me push ours around). She even puts shopping away!

With her being a part of the boring daily stuff, she's getting more of my attention because it's fun to her to join in, but it don't feel like I'm giving her my full attention to me, if that makes sense. And because she's had the time doing things with me she's less full on afterwards!

I’m involved for 6/7 hours a day I’m exhausted, I’m fully playing with everything I feel like a toddler myself 😭🤣

Bless you. It sounds like she's had a lot of your attention a lot of the time so she's used to it.

Have you tried setting up open ended activities like playdough, bricks etc and stepping back a bit.