People not wanting to give baby back when crying
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@Kim honestly I can totally see how that’s frustrating. I feel like older people just love to do the “back in my day, we did this…”. Well, we’re not in your day anymore are we!?
Yes. My MIL literally took my little girl out of my arms when she was 6 weeks old without even asking. My own mum comes over often and tries to comfort her if she’s crying or won’t give her back. It all makes me so uncomfortable. I understand sometimes people are trying to help but it actually just makes the situation worse. Babies crying more because they want their mum!
@Ellie thankfully my mum just knows to give my baby back to me, but I think if otherwise I would be happy to say to her unlike how I would be with my MIL. It’s so stressful. We are their safe space so it’s awful when they want us and people won’t just give them over. How do you approach it with your MIL and mum? Do you say anything or just grit your teeth? I hate confrontation so much but honestly it’s going to have to come to me being rude which will put my husband in an awkward position.
I feel like this is a common issue sadly, I used to get really anxious too and sort of hover until they handed me the baby. Now I'm on baby number two, my technique is that I deliberately leave the room and leave them to deal with baby crying...they soon run to find me when hes wailing haha. I am not confrontational either so I feel your pain! Now I sort of know that bub will be fine crying for a few minutes and when he does properly cry people panic and hand him straight to me
I literally just grab my baby back now I don't care about hurting people's feelings 😂 if she's sad she wants me and that's that!
They might see it as trying to help by giving you some relief. This happened to me earlier today at a friend's place. My little one started crying while my friend was holding her, and I noticed she didn’t give her back to me but instead tried to console her herself. Not long after, she fell asleep. I was anxious for a moment, but then I figured that since my friend is a mum herself, she’d know when to hand her back to me. In fact, most people hand her back as soon as she starts crying 😅 Personally, I appreciate all the help and support I can get 😅
So I'm in kind of a similar situation but it's not for feeding. It's for napping. My girl is a velcro baby and will only contact nap through the day since she was 3 weeks old. Trust me.i tried everything to put her down for a nap but she never settled and she does instantly on my chest. My MIL makes a point of asking how the naps are going so she can have a go and tell me to put her down and let her cry and she'll learn. That gives me anxiety as she proper screams and then won't sleep. So yeah part of that's my concern that I don't get a break but it annoys me how she insists on saying she'll not learn when I continue to coddle her by choice (it's not a choice and she doesn't seem that)