How to manage Pee/poop accidents outside?

Hey mamas! We've been potty training for a month now and aren't really accident free yet, however, it's time to start taking him out in underwear. I have social anxiety and am feeling so worried about how to handle it when my toddler has accidents at social events, parks, or someone else's home? I'm worried if it will spoil their furniture. Any suggestions please?

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Take them to the washroom before you leave. Take them while youre out.
Use boxers instead of briefs or go commando

Pull ups?

Unfortunately can't do pull ups as my toddler treats it as a diaper.

I think accidents are a way for children to learn , as annoying as they are eventually they will be potty trained . Bring extra clothes & break a leg !

Always have a spare set, or 2, of undies and pants with you. Also, if you have a small potty you can strap it in a spare seat of your vehicle or in the trunk for use any time 😉. I agree with Ellie, also make sure he tries to potty before you leave, and when you get to your destination. Other than that, try not to worry about the reactions of others if he has an accident while you're out, because Most people understand that training children have accidents!

Thank you!

Thanks for the advice, true I shouldn't be concerned with others'reactions. I'm confused about outdoor trips like parks where I won't have my car. Like there isn't an outdoor toilet where I go, i feel it'll be odd carrying a potty chair with me in the stroller.

😂 Yes, the potty wouldn't be appropriate in a park situation with no car. In those cases is there a wooded area nearby that would be comfortable letting him go in nature? If not then perhaps it's best to keep your LO in a diaper or pull-up for those particular situations juuust until you're feeling a bit more confident with his abilities out and about 😉

Haha exactly! We've been directed by his teachers to have him in underwear throughout except for sleep time. Otherwise it's confusing for him. I'm planning to get him training pants for these situations, hopefully they can hold the pee/poop for a little longer till we can find a toilet or some wooded area 😃

We have puppy pads for sitting on couches/chairs at other people’s homes. Always bring extra pants/underwear as a back up.

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