What shall I do?

I turn 30 this year so my sisters and cousins have planned 2 weekends in July to celebrate with me, just me. I have two kids so my parents will have one and my husband will have the other. He doesn’t think it’s fair that my mum won’t have both so he can have a break over the weekends too. I asked him why he doesn’t want to have one of them for the weekend and he kicked off. Called me a fat c*** (I’m 2m pp), dumb b****, *wat! Then slapped me across my leg, very hard.
I basically take care of the kids, I feed them, dress them, put them to bed and ALWAYS wake up in the night when they do.
He has never been like this before and I was genuinely scared when it happened.
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Oh no, that’s going too far…That’s abuse
And why does he not take care of the kids as well.

I don't know you or your partner, but please get out of that situation if not for you, for your kids' sake. There's no excuse for verbal or physical abuse, and it doesn't matter if it's never happened before because it will happen again in some way or another. It sounds like you have many people who love you and support you, take advantage of that and walk away.
Sending much love your way x

Wow, this is horrendous! When I go out, my toddler will have a sleepover at my mums, and my partner has our 5 month old just to make it easier for him. Does your partner have a night out with friends now and again? Or does he have a hobby that's he can do to have a break? Either way, his behaviour is so unacceptable I wouldn't want to be around this man

@Daniella because he works he says. I get the fact that the baby wakes up twice in the night but when my 3 year old wakes up, he expects me to go in and sort her out.
I think I’m weak too as I don’t say anything or when I do it just backfires and ends up arguing.

@Becky he goes out with friends and I take the kids to my mums with me. He plays PlayStation but then moans when he can’t because he’s tired.
I’m knackered!!!

If he gets his free time, then go out, have fun and don't let him make you feel bad. Sorry, but he sounds awful

He works is not an excuse, you’ve been with the kids all day that’s work as well.. there should be clear communication on who does what when it comes to taking care of children… I hand over the baby once he’s back from work that’s when I get to rest a bit because I do the night wake ups and he get to sleep .. Don’t put up with all that, you didn’t have kids by yourself

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