Do you let your kids pee in the yard??

My LO has started peeing outside when he’s playing.. I personally think it’s fine. It’s juat grass.. not on the fence or anything but my husband is completely against it. Thoughts? Obvs he doesn’t do it anywhere else outside, public, other yards etc. just ours.

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I should clarify boys** lol not kids

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I would let any of my kids pee in the yard🤷🏼‍♀️ as you said it's just grass. I don't see a difference between letting a boy or a girl do it honestly.

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I just knew I’m having boy and joined that group and please don’t tell me this is what I’ll have to deal with 😭😭😭😭

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only if you let them. Boys don’t do this unless someone shows them

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Lol its not a big deal. This is how alot of moms teach their sons to stand up and pee anyways. It's just easier. 🤷🏼‍♀️ my LO still too young, hes still in diapers but my friends baby is 17 months and she just sent me a text of her son peeing on the bushes in her yard. 😂😂 if it works it works. And not doing no harm. As long as he knows in the house its the toilet then theres no reason to fret.

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thats not true at all. 🤣🤣 I have a lot of nephews and I can surely tell you that they did it bc they thought it was funny and easier then going inside, no one showed them to do that. They just started doing it. Boys will be boys.

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I can’t believe this is even a question up for debate 😂

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Ive never heard of this being done or seen this before and I have a lot of brothers 😂 but then again if my brothers did it would have been mid playing football or something so don’t think anyone would have even noticed 😂

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Not a boy mom but please clarify to your sons if they do pee outside not at a friends house 😂 we had a four little boys going outside in front of everyone mom didn’t seem to care but it was a bit awkward

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I don't but I'm sure no one would care if they did we Don't have many neighbors

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I think it's fine for boys or girls 🤷🏼‍♀️ I grew up being allowed to pee outside as long as it was behind the house (away from neighbors) and not just out in the open. I'd go to the one corner of the house beside the garage, especially if we were swimming. Why waste time trying to dry off to go pee lol

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I wasnt gonna mention this but yess! Lol me too girl, especially if we went camping with my grandparents we were always told to just go behind the bushes. It's all good. 💁🏼‍♀️ the bathrooms at campsites were always so far away. 😭 😂

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I don’t see an issue with it, I used to pee outside when playing all the time, nobody got time to go to the toilet when they’re in the middle of having the time of their life!!! 🤣🤣🤣

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This is disgusting, I wouldn’t want to step in pee in the yard. Peeing outside is for dogs 🤣🤣🤣 my sister lets my nieces do this at my parents house and it is nasty

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I personally don't see an issue, you guys have a wood fence that is high enough for privacy, plus plants he can step behind. I would understand an issue if he's in the front yard or a chainlink fence because people (antisocial and just you never know with people nowadays )

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Personally wouldn’t mind 😂 boys/men tend to pee anywhere anyways as it’s easy for them to .

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tbh they’ll most probably end up doing it once they’re grown anyways 😂.

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you say wouldn't want to step in pee in the yard, yet say its for dogs... you understand you step in pee in the yard when theres a dog.. and poop for that matter. 🤣 So your statement makes literally no sense.

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I don't think there's anything wrong with it. It looks like your backyard is fenced in so there's no issue of creepers watching him. Maybe your hub thinks he might start doing it elsewhere if you guys let him but I think as long as you make it clear that he can only pee outside in the yard and maybe while camping it should be fine. I'd rather him go outside while playing than have an accident🤷🏽‍♀️

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my point is that urinating and defecating outside is primal, something animals do.

And tbh I don’t step in the yard without shoes anyways, but wouldn’t want to step in human urine 😂

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I’m in the south, it’s so normal 😂😂

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it's only you having to deal with it if you let them. I've got 3 boys and never once have I allowed this or they haven't even thought about doing it!

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Yup lol

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My husband still does this 🤦🏼‍♀️😂

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I fully intend on when I potty train my son to teach him to pee in the yard🤣

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Personally no because you wouldn’t want them to do it when they got older so why let them now? Not to mention they may think it’s okay doing it outside at other places that are not your home

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My nephews do this. Pee outside. And it’s created bad habits. They pee at grandmas, in the front yard. In front of other family members. And it is weird. Others think it’s weird but can’t say anything out of fearing we sound judgmental. I have to tell my son, don’t pee like your cousins. Use the toilet and don’t be lazy about it. You can’t pee outside as an adult so why create a habit to be broken. Raise gentleman. It’s one thing when you’re camping or hiking when no bathrooms are around. But if a bathroom is near, just use it.

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It’s a terrible habbit !

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Girl… mines finds it comforting to urinate on the drive way while we’re on our way out of the house….why idk …🙄 (yes he’s a boy)

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We just potty trained my son and keep a potty outside for him. We haven’t tackled peeing standing up - but the pee outside doesn’t phase me at all. He’s 2. If he were old enough to go inside the house alone to pee then that would prob be our expectation. But nothing wrong with it at your own house, just gets tricky when other people are around if that’s what they’re used to

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That’s how I got my oldest to potty train lol “go water the tree”
“Wash daddy’s tires”. The only time I had a issue was when we moved to town for a short time and he was jumping on the trampoline decided he need to go real bad stood on the edge of it and whipped his pants down while the neighbor lady was watering her flowers 🤦🏼‍♀️ she looked up just as he started and he waved at her 🤣 I was mortified. She laughed.

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Peeing in the yard is fine lol it’s when they decide to take a dump in the yard that you have to start worrying and explaining that’s for the potty.., My son did this at my parents 😬🤦🏼‍♀️ he was 2…

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yes!! That’s definitely why. He’s afraid our son will start doing it in public
Or at other peoples yards 😂 and also he said he doesn’t understand it bc him and his brother never did that. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Idk. I think it’s harmless with privacy and kinda funny but he’s so set on no.

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this is valid…
I feel like it’s fine in our yard but those are the reasons my husband says hard no. They def make sense lol

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I’ve had mine do it a couple times when the bathroom was too far away, but my preference is definitely the toilet.

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