Husband on Grindr

Screenshot and wait till after your baby’s birthday to confront him also please leave him it’s one thing bring bi but cheating on you with a man is another thing. I would get checked to be on the safe side

idek what to say. I’m a sahm I have no squirrel fund no where to go I can’t even get a job because i don’t have child care. I’m scared. My first child isn’t even his but he took her in as his own and he’s the only dad she knows. I don’t want to be a single mom again with two bd

I understand, start making an backup plan for you and your kids it’ll be hard at first but it’s better being a single mom than putting up with someone who is cheating and cheating on you with a man. If he likes man you’ll never be enough for him I’m sorry to put it that way

screenshot everything, take pics with your phone, and do your best to not confront him right now (i know it’s hard). take the time you need to get out of there, safely. i understand being a single mum isn’t ideal and not what you wanted, but your children will thank you when they’re older, think about the long term impact. even if he turns to you and says he’s bi and it was a “mistake” or whatever excuse he may come up with, will you ever be truly happy with him again? will you ever trust him again? second guessing yourself every time his phone pings, or when he goes out. a man who loves you and your family, would never betray you, and you deserve much much more than that🤍 act unaware, take action, it WILL take time, but it will be worth it

I’m so heart broken… it’s hurts so fucking bad. I really thought he loved me. He’s still sleeping I’m sitting here crying trying to pull it together. Idk how I’m supposed to act like everything is fine

I really wanted to just leave the messages open on his phone so that when he woke up this morning he would see it and know I know but it’s too late now

Oh yeah also saw him googling herpes treatment in his search history soo yeah there’s that too

Id screenshot the message and put it on his lockscreen so he would see it when he wakes up 🤣 fuck him especially if he looking up herpes treatment? Wtf he is foul

Hate to put my business out there but I feel I have to. You’re not alone. This is exactly what happened to me with my ex husband. He cheated on me with men, same app, and I too was a SAHM. You can always message me if you want. If you don’t want to that’s totally okay. I get it. But I will say I stayed for my kids for 10 more years. I tried for ten years because he said he was just “curious.” I never got over it. Never looked at him the same again. Never felt good enough. And our marriage ended. I found love again 4 years ago. I am pregnant, soon to be married, and absolutely love my life. There is more out there for you. This isn’t the end.

As someone who had a friend go through this recently and it landed her in jail, please don't confront him right now. You don't know how you both will react, and it could become dangerous. Have a chat with your family while he's not at home. See if they can take you and your kids in until you can get on your feet. Quietly pack a few bags, rent a storage, and start moving things out while he isn't at home. When you can, just leave Quietly. He had every single opportunity to be 100 with you, and he didn't. He also is placing everyone's safely at risk, especially yours. Men don't think about this, and you need to put yourself and your kids first at this point.

As a gal that went through this same thing... my heart goes out to you. Screenshot and wait, call ALL the lawyers first thing on Monday, and get tested ASAP. 😞💌

If you are US based I would call Welfare/ DHHS immediately & tell them your husband appears to be Gay meeting up with men from Grindr. And now you're stuck because you do not work, your kids do not go to daycare & you'd like help navigating if you can get help with putting them in daycare & finding a job through unemployment or anything they can help you with.

The state (Google your state and town then DHHS so- Nashua NH DHHS (for me lol) & I promise you, they will help you immediately & discreetly. You need help with an escape plan. Let them help you.

If you can get over this,.all the power to you. I couldn't
I've seen this happen to a friend and after 6 years she also did this. She contacted DHHS/ Welfare office & within 3 months she had a job, her 3 kids in fulltime daycare for free so she could move out with state help to do this while state also helped her divorce for free probono lawyer.

So I confronted him I couldn’t help myself and he’s claiming he was tryna scam for money and he’s mad at me because I went through his phone… I went though his I went through his phone a week ago and brought up him watching porn and we got into a argument and he said he felt like I invaded his privacy and now he’s saying I did it again and saying he’s going to leave. I feel bad for my babygirl we were supposed to go to a theme park for her bday tomorrow idk what’s happening now

I really want to believe him that nothing actually happened but even if that’s true I still don’t know how we would ever move on from this

Girl. NO MAN is going to pretend to be gay to get money. Too big of a risk for minuscule reward. You know better. Let him leave, go for child support. You’re better off. You and babygirl deserve so much better ❤️

bingo! Please don’t fall for that nonsense op.

No he's very much in the closet about it. I wouldn't doubt his mom or dad are religious or very against LGBT community. I just saw a close friend go through this. He said similar that he was just a tiny but curious but nothing came of it.. yet she had proof like you that he had in fact met with a man.

Cheating is cheating. I have all the love for gay community but no this is bullshit. This tore my friend apart and eventually he came clean he's not attracted to her, he was too scared to admit he liked men- he MADE IT ALL ABOUT HIM. Bc he learned through her & giving her 2 kids by then.. that he's actually gay.

Girl RUN

It's sick that they use their childhood trauma against you. He doesn't mean it now but it's going to sting later- you more than him. Sounds like he wasn't allowed to explore same sex etc. Now that he is I'm sorry are you supposed to just sit back & pretend to be the perfect house wife for him so he can figure out while cheating on you.. if he's straight or sideways? Don't be gaslight by him. Don't allow him to disregard what you found. Period. He needs to own up to his fucking actions.

Sounds like his response was the typical turning the tables on you situation so you feel guilty and to deflect his guilt.
Don't fall for it!!
Why would he have been Googling herpes treatments too if only scamming??

Confront get out and put him behind you. Then get a STI test. test again in 6 months as it can take that long to develop. Feel for you must be horrible x

Get alll that evidence onto your phone, screenshots, screen recordings, all of it. Then speak to a divorce lawyer. Even if you two can coparent flawlessly and even be friends if that’s something you would want, you have to give yourself a chance to be with someone who you can have a good relationship/marriage with. Gay, bi, doesn’t matter- he’s still cheating on you and that isn’t something you do to someone you love.

Girl what are you gonna confront him about… you see the proof what else would he say that could change the fact that he’s cheating… simply dump his ass and don’t entertain a conversation or any pleading he may do . He’s looking up herpes treatment??? Baby either he thinks he has it or he’s sleeping with Someone that has it , so that should let you know he has CONSIDERATION for you or your health like at alll. He will say he love you so much and needs you but that’s just the part of him that’s attached to you being in his life … that’s not love . I pray you heal and move away from this situation.