Potty training

I have officially started potty training my 2 and half year old daughter... I've been told not 2 use pull ups as tht will confuse her but then I get told to use them and just ask her when she needs 2 go.. shes done 2nwees on the potty but has had a few accidents from the 2 days I've started... so how would u go bout this

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It’s a hard one. You kind of have to trust your judgement. We do pullups and ask if he needs a wee if travelling quite far but then pants the rest of the time, then he’ll just go whenever he needs. But my issue is he doesn’t tell us when he needs to go all the time. Xx

Yh my daughter doesn't tell us but it's early days

Honestly easiest way is just keep no pants on at home. Keep doing it for a few days and theyll be 99% clean. Carry plenty of spare pants for when you go out - accidents will happen its just part of it xx

I highly recommend reading the oh crap potty training book

Started by just taking her nappy off and putting pants on. I put her on the toilet every 20mins and then I increased the time as she got use to it she had a few accidents but it’s her 4th week now and she’s doing great. She tells me when she needs to go. Refuses to go in her nappy. Has some accidents. But Still learning to control. Honestly you will learn to just follow her. I didn’t know what I was doing. Every child is different and you’ll get it mama. Just takes a little time

Pants free for a few days and ask constantly- we almost annoyed our daughter into potty training because she was so over us asking 😅 also use an incentive that works for them like stickers or in our case it was a stamp on her body when she went to potty

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Is this clever or cruel?

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I thought this was air tight, but now my brother says its cruel to give a kid a flip phone, and besides he can just use his friends phones at school.

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If your partners parent passes away

And you and that parent didn't get along are you still go to the funeral?

Not my situation!

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Has anyone else been told it won’t start until May?

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How would you react?