Being sync with your partner

Wow , thank you for your vulnerability I know this can be very frustrating and hard❤️ I want to encourage you to self reflect on some of these questions. I don’t know your full relationship or anything so I’m not one to just be like “leave him” but I do think at some point as women we are responsible for some of these things unintentionally because how can we expect respect and love if we not taking house steps of courage to do it for ourselves.

If it was someone you love like your sister , friend or daughter and they were with the same man same story what would you tell them to do ?

When you think of the version of yourself you want to become does staying with him bring you closer or farther away?

What would you need to believe about yourself to walk away and what part of you still doesn’t believe that?

I hope this encourages you to not doubt your worth and what your feeling but embody it and increase your faith if what could be!

Thank you your response got me crying all over again. I'm constantly questioning my worth. I literally was woken up out of my sleep and thought we could pbly get it out the way this morning. The ball was in his court. I really tried avoiding it turning into an argument and held myself accountable. He bought be 2 bouquet of flowers and wine yesterday. Now today I'm told we still aren't sync. I have moments I wanna walk away because he says lot of hurtful things that cannot be taken back.

This reminds of this psychology video I just watched yesterday. It was focusing on a common theme of where men can tend to project all their unmet needs onto their partners. It’s not always men, but because men in particularly in our society have historically been taught to shut down their emotions and man up, then they end up internalizing all their needs and projecting unrealistic expectations onto this “perfect” partner in their heads that will solve all their problems. In reality no one can completely fulfill every need of someone else when that other person hasn’t done the work to meet their own needs themselves. Even if this isn’t the entire case with your situation. It’s clear he has VERY high expectations for you and seems like he expects you to just be perfect or read his mind. He’s treating you as if it’s your obligation to baby him and it’s screaming that he actually doesn’t know how to be an adult and regulate himself without projecting all his needs onto you.

Make him shave his own damn head with that attitude

This reminds me of my ex. Always turning something small into something catastrophic. Then claiming I'm dumb or demeaning or disrespecting him...I have 3 degrees btw and chose my words and actions very carefully (walked on eggshells) . I went to counseling after our relationship, because he did turn violent towards me. And the therapist told me about crazy making (he was making me feel like I was the crazy one). But nothing was ever really my fault, but I was constantly apologizing. Oh then he'd love bomb me...I love yous, best thing that ever happened to me blah blah, flowers the works.

We literally had an argument because I wouldn't apologize because he felt like I was taking too long to leave a muy thai event he bombed. I was literally right behind him...
But you said he was breaking things, so unless he puts in some serious work, his aggression could turn towards you if it hasn't already...

Hi babes- obviously this is a small snippet of your relationship, but please look into the circle of violence and see if you feel like that fits his (and your) behavior. It can be an easy circle to fall into and it’s hard to get out of. Speaking from experience, it starts so easily as arguments and making up and escalates from there. I could be totally off base but behavior like breaking things can very quickly turn towards you and it very easily can be someone you thought would never lay a hand on you (again-speaking from experience) just be safe and make a decision that is going to be best for you :)