I hate family trying to “advise” what people should do with their kids.

Ooo I deal with this!! What I do is when they say something I ChatGBT to see if it’s a fact or false and (normally) what they say is false. When they say “hey you should do.. etc etc” I’m like let me look it up and I do right in front of them and then read the answer back. Normally that shuts them up. It kinda pisses my sister off lol who has two kids of her own when I come back with facts and statistics. But slowly they’ve stopped offering unwarranted advice :)

Chat GBT Says:
Do toddlers have a concept of time?
Not in the adult sense, no—they can’t tell you “30 minutes” or grasp next Tuesday.
But they absolutely understand cause and effect, anticipation, and emotional patterns.
By around 1–2 years, they start understanding routines and sequences (“after bath is bedtime,” or “when Mom gets keys, she leaves”).
They do notice when people leave—and disappearing without warning can cause confusion or anxiety, especially if they’re sensitive to transitions.
So should you “just disappear” without saying goodbye?
No, and here’s why:
Just vanishing
can:
Break trust—they think you were there, and suddenly you’re gone
Cause more separation anxiety, not less
Make them clingier next time because they don’t know what to expect

Consistent, loving goodbyes build emotional security
That’s how they begin to build a sense of time and trust. This helps long-term emotional regulation and independence.

I’ve talked to them about stuff back but it hasn’t changed since I was able to talk so this is why my therapist just says keep it simple but it is driving me insane. I want to say how I feel about what they’re doing but I’ve done it too much. It just goes back to the way it was. It started off more personal in my upbringing, they were negative of what I wanted to do in life (singer, news reporter, fashion designer) they wanted me to be a nurse and wouldn’t pay for college if I didn’t. So this just all piles up. I actually used ChatGPT a couple of weeks ago to write an email to get a refund for something that broke and it’s a state law here that even if you get no refunds, you have to give it back. He told me I was never going to get a job using that. I have a job. lol

I know I was right about saying goodbye btw. It made no sense as to why I shouldn’t. So crazy. I’m glad I’m not the only one in this

Literally relate . I felt so dramatic for being mad at my cousin right now. My daughter was terrified of thunder so I was cudddling her . Turned on bluey to filter out the noise . Which I try to limit screen time to extent , but I was trying to filter out noise . She took my baby out my arms , and said you know screen time is bad for developmental . I had a cow . I was so upset. Every baby is different

honestly…. I grew up in an abusive household. Physical and verbal. The screen is the least of my worries. We all have different experiences where we think this or that is important. If you wanna stick your kids face in a screen so be it. I know there are studies but it’s so hard to judge people who do that. Parenting is already hard enough.

Girl! I hear you! 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
I go through this everyday between my mother correcting me in front of my son, and my brother and his mom judging me because my son sits down to pee or he the fact that he doesn’t eat hotdogs. Like my kid eats healthy. He’s had some stomach issues growing up g up like Gerd and he also had some poop problems due to things like hotdogs. I talk to my therapist about it a lot and she tells me to start building boundaries. And I have. They may not realize it but I’m at their houses for shorter amounts of time and I limit my interactions with them when it son is present