New baby

I have 2 boys, an almost 3 year old and almost 4 month old. Since the baby was born, my husband basically only focuses on our toddler. It’s like our baby is invisible to him. I’m left to care for the baby by myself. And of course our toddler also. For the mamas with two or more kiddos, did your husband help out with the new baby when they were born? I understand our toddler needs looking after too, but why can’t both of us share both kids? I feel like I’ve been totally on my own with the baby since day 1.

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My husband veered more towards the toddler because I’m breastfeeding. We also made an agreement that I’d be up with the baby (easier for me since I’m breastfeeding only) and he’d let me sleep and keep the toddler occupied and sometimes both kids. He will help if I ask and lets me have time with the toddler too but it’s mostly me with the baby and him with the toddler

I feel like I’m constantly going back and forth with both kids. Our toddler still gets lots of attention from me. I get no break. But my husband only does things with our toddler. I am breastfeeding, but we are supposed to be trying to get him to take a bottle also. My husband makes no effort to bottle feed when I’m already pumping and doing all the things along with that. I just didn’t expect to feel so alone with the baby.

yes! Our toddler is having nightmares/night terrors so she’s up once or twice a night sometimes and my 5 month old is back to waking up a few times and then during the day we share

Can you ask him to take the baby while you go do something?

I’m afraid to do anything for more than like an hour because I know once I leave the baby will be hungry 🙄 even if I feed him before I go, and then won’t take a bottle. So I am stressed the whole time anyways

My husband was pretty hands on with both kids.

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