Velcro baby and intimacy with husband. Help

Quickies!!!!

I am JUST starting to get through this! My husband doesn’t work nights but it’s hard to be intimate when baby is in bed.. it took some time but my daughter is doing well with a floor bed. We put her crib mattress on the floor, I still feed her to sleep for naps and am able to sneak away. We’re working on this for bedtime too but at least we can be intimate during her nap on the weekend or maybe her last nap of the day depending on when my husband is home

I think how’s a good time to get them used to sleeping without you. I started this process off by leaving the shirt I was wearing during bed time with a. Teddy bear next to him. (With cameras to make sure it wasn’t a suffocation hazard)

Oh my days this literally sounds like our household. We are blessed enough to have my mum looking after our son atleast 1weekend a month so it really helps us spend time together. Otherwise I just don’t know how we’d do it. Do you get any time without baby?

Hey momma, same situation! Bouncer/Highchair has been a blessing for this! We just put baby in one of the contained areas, go to a part of the room baby can't see but we can watch him and make it quick. Saw a video that says, during the first 2 years after baby is born, intimacy is based on needs not wants. So, right now it's normal and okay to not have something long and sensual. It will come back in time, I'm sure of it! 🙏

Sometimes we’ll put baby in his crib, turn on the monitor, and sneak away. Even if he’s screaming his head off for 10 minutes, at least he’s breathing and safe in his crib.

Currently going through this! Thankfully my mother comes for the weekends and watches the baby for us while we get alone time. Otherwise, I would not know what we’d do

are you saying that sometimes you leave your baby screaming his head off in his crib while you have sex orrr

lol that makes me sound terrible. Maybe I worded it wrong. No if he’s asleep, we’re fooling around, and his needs are met when he wakes up, we won’t go pick him up right away. We’ll finish and then go pick him up. It’s okay to let your baby cry. Plus he needs to learn that his crib is a safe space for him.

We are finally getting through this at 11months old. My son finally stays asleep when I get up and sneak away. But I do agree with someone else! A quickie does wonders when you have a baby that is attached to you

okay I was hoping I misunderstood lol I get what you mean

Always keep in mind that this is just a short season of life and then you'll be more free for intimate time! We've switched strategies depending on what worked at any given time. The simplest for us has usually been to put the baby to sleep in our bed (where he always sleeps). Right after he first goes to sleep, but once he's solidly asleep, I've usually got at least half an hour before he wakes up again. When he went through a phase where he would play happily for a little while in his pack and play as long as he could see us, we could also drag that somewhere into sight and make use of that time. I don't think it's a big deal if a baby under 1 is nearby while you're being intimate. In many societies, the whole family sleeps close by each other all the time and it's not like people don't have sex.

Thank you everyone... I really needed to read you all, see other people's experiences and see that I am not alone. Thank you for the tips!
It is difficult as we don't have family nearby

We had the same situation and honestly intimacy and my want for intimacy didn't happen till 12 months when my daughter started occasional doing a 2-3 hour stretches

We also didn't have family to help and I was the only one who coukd do bedtime and nught wakes so was exhausted and physically touched out. Really helped when bubs got her own floor bed and stafted being more comfortable and sleeping longer stretches when I wanst with her

I have a similar situation- had a Velcro baby for over 3 years! As soon as I move she fills the space next to me or underneath me! Nightmare when feeding the newborn in the middle of the night too 😖