Is this ok?

My partner left the house 23 hours ago to go to the football (UK) and drinking. I haven’t heard a word from him since. We have two children 2 and 1. He hasn’t even asked about them. We did have a row before hand but he didn’t even let me know he wasn’t coming home. I’m so upset.

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Is it normal to have arguments and him not talk to you? X

If it's not like him to communicate after an argument, then he might just be still angry about the row. If he would normally call to speak to the children after an argument and he hasn't this time. Then I would be more concerned about him being in a bad situation especially after he has been drinking.

My husband would potentially be a bit like that - he does the silent treatment if we argue - it’s so irritating as I’m the opposite! But I think he would let me know if he wasn’t coming home.
I would text just to check he’s ok. I think he’s being a bit immature if he’s just decided not to tell you!

Id do a missing persons post on Facebook, as lets me honest he is missing! Let him feel embarrassed x

That’s very immature of your partner. To leave for 23 hours with no contact. Especially when you have kids.

Basically he is indirectly telling you that he will disappear when there is a disagreement. I don’t think you have the luxury of leaving your responsibilities for 23hours.

Definitely immature and not healthy. Even if you have an argument with your partner does not mean you can be an inconsiderate person. You still care about their welfare. Have you contacted him? I know sometimes our ego will get the best of us and think “I shouldn’t be contacting them”. But good or bad you both still continue to care about eachother. Especially as the man of the house how are you away from your house while your partner and 2 babies are home alone and you don’t know anything about how they are. Where is the man in him to protect his family.

Have you tried reaching out?

I would be really really worried. My husband has never stayed out of the house for the night for anything besides work. I’d be in a panic that he was hurt and furious when he was found alive lbvs.

what’s lbvs? I think I’ve seen that twice today on here. But same. I agree w your comment my hubby has never done that either if he did I’d think he’d be in jail or hospital tbh

laughing but very serious lol. I use that one a lot but it’s very fitting here! Yea I’d faint.

When he finally decides to return leave for 23 hours with no message to him I’m petty like that but I’m sure you aren’t so some stern words would be had making it clear that kind of thing won’t be tolerated as that is totally unacceptable, immature and damn right selfish id also be concerned about where he stayed .

Time to have a chat with him the longer this carries on I mean the behaviour it just gets worse.

I would send a message and tell him you’ll be calling the police as missing person and the kids are scared

At 24, id report him missing 😂 but im also petty 🤷🏻‍♀️

second this. He’d never do it again

Is he back yet?? We need a follow up!

Would he be okay if you did that to him?

I've seen a few similar posts recently. Football season back is it 🙄 makes such a difference to my partners behaviour and I think it affects other men too. Can't stand it.
Hope he's home now and you've managed to sort it out, more importantly I hope he has APOLOGISED. His behaviour is disgusting and hopefully a one off. If this happened again there'd be serious consequences for the relationship.

Id report him missing and if he is just ignoring you this isnt ok at all.

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We landed on the idea of giving him the 90's kid treatment. A computer in the living room for us to keep an eye on what hes doing online, and once we feel hes mature enough to hang with friends without adult supervision he gets a flip phone. When we feel he is responsible enough and he earns and saves up the money for the physical phone, case, and screen cover, then we will be happy to take him to get a smart phone.

I thought this was air tight, but now my brother says its cruel to give a kid a flip phone, and besides he can just use his friends phones at school.

My husband and i remember a time before the internet, and we remember having complete access to something no one understood yet. We saw unspeakable things and are always battling with the urge to put the phone and social media down. I dont want that for my son, especially with his brain so vulnerable still.

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