Roblox

Hey so i just had my child crying to me that everyone is busy talking about roblox in his class including his own bestfriend lately that he feels left out because i havent allowed him hes 10 year old i feel like hel be going into social media gaming anyway when he hits highschool so atm i kept him off from all this as when i tried he gets super addicted to the point where he doesn't listen at all or respond when needed and will say only 5mins and argue constantly for it so me having enough i said no that's it now im feeling like a bad parent for not letting him play as hes saying he has nothing in common with most his class mates and even teared up on it.

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My kids aren’t this age yet but Nurtured First on Instagram talks a lot about this type of friendship stuff and online safety and all that. You’re definitely not a bad mom, you’re keeping him safe! Maybe see if she has any helpful tips on conversations you could have with him to help him understand.

Could you put restrictions on it so he’s only allowed to add people that he knows and monitor it?

I dont blame you, Roblox is scary tbh, all the trafficking and pervs that are on there. Just google it and a ton of articles will pop up

your son is not following the "all the people" and he should be different. What's the value in roblox??? If it's just because everyone is using it, it's not reason enough, and you are right in not letting him anywhere near it. Until he can provide you with the valid reason how it will benefit him, it's a NO... but I get it's so hard

I get how everyone is worried about grooming and speaking to people on roblox but my mum put restrictions on my sisters roblox (she’s 12) and that helps a lot with safety as she’s not allowed to chat or send messages to anyone. The games are so fun and I feel like I get why your son is feeling left out.

Supervise him if needed. Sit down while he plays. Tell him he can’t play unless you’re in the room. Set boundaries. Maybe that could help?

This is a 1000% no for me as well. He will forgive you someday for protecting him. It’s not worth the risks and behaviors.

in our community

Is this clever or cruel?

My husband and i were talking and with social media and the internet in general being a terrifying dumpster fire, we are trying to figure out the best way to keep our son safe while still teaching him how to safely be online and moderation.

We landed on the idea of giving him the 90's kid treatment. A computer in the living room for us to keep an eye on what hes doing online, and once we feel hes mature enough to hang with friends without adult supervision he gets a flip phone. When we feel he is responsible enough and he earns and saves up the money for the physical phone, case, and screen cover, then we will be happy to take him to get a smart phone.

I thought this was air tight, but now my brother says its cruel to give a kid a flip phone, and besides he can just use his friends phones at school.

My husband and i remember a time before the internet, and we remember having complete access to something no one understood yet. We saw unspeakable things and are always battling with the urge to put the phone and social media down. I dont want that for my son, especially with his brain so vulnerable still.

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And you and that parent didn't get along are you still go to the funeral?

Not my situation!

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Has anyone else been told it won’t start until May?

The government site states it should start from April 1st, and so I intentionally set my nursery start and return to work as the start of April for that reason, knowing that I wouldn’t be able to afford the nursery on my sole income without the funding

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Anyone work for the NHS and does 12 hour shifts? How do you work around childcare and your partners job?

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