Marriage

Is it normal for after 4-5 years being married your man being very mean to you or just not showing love to you like he used to such as bringing me flowers telling me good morning beautiful I love u beautiful making me feel super special now he just says morning or afternoon or will just be on his phone and when I say let’s do something it’s ugh fine and when others say let’s go hunting and fishing and etc he says yes let’s go I’m down

Read more on Peanut

The views expressed in community are solely the opinions of participants, and do not reflect those of Peanut.

Learn more about our guidelines.

Add a comment

I havnt been married that long , but it sounds like maybe you guys need to reconnect. I think this is one of those times people talk about when they say that marriage is hard. If you guys both acknowledge what’s going on and work together to fix it, I think y’all will be okay. Just keep communicating

My partner and I have been using the paired app to try and reconnect and it’s helped a lot so far!

But don’t tell him all this when you’re emotional, take some time to cool down and process this bc if you’re fired up, it’ll go sideways real quick

Does he show love in other ways? Acts of service, physical touch, words of affirmation. All these things often look different to men and women. For women physical touch might mean holding hands when out or random hugs and for men it might be more alone time intimacy. Word of affirmation might sound like " i love you" "your so beautiful" ect. To women and mights sound like "dinner was bomb tonight" or "that project you did looks great" to a man.

in our community

5 month old activities

Hey everyone my baby is 5 months old and I want to reduce/cut screen time as I have read up on how bad it is what activities did people do to keep their baby entertained. Thank you in advance.

My friend is over from another country but I don't feel like leaving the house

One of my old friend's is visiting where I currently live and we agreed to meet up today but I feel so tired and exhausted from everything that's been going on with me. I feel if I meet her I'm going to end up having another breakdown from the exhaustion which I have been having often. I'm just thinking about how I need to rest to be able to deal with my toddler and go back to work on Monday without feeling like I need another weekend. I'm torn on what to do so I need you guys to help me decide

Weaning

Hello mamas,could I get some advice please with how and what to wean as started this week with my baby but not really what to give and when what time day. Have started with puree vegetables and making them myself and offering it in the evening to my baby but she tends to get irritated and tired and has a few spoonfulls and then gives up and has a meltdown. So I’m questioning myself am I feeding her wrong time of day and what’s best to mix the food with milk or baby rice please.

Baby Food Maker

What’s everyone’s thoughts on a baby food maker? I’m looking to get Baby Breeza or Grownsy. Thoughts? What does everyone like?

Post partum dad

I have a 2 month old. A few weeks ago my husband crashed out because he didn't feel like he was getting to bond with her. I started exclusively breastfeeding around that time and honestly didnt see the big deal. Baby and I left for a few days and when we got back home, everything was fine. He was extremely hands-on. He helped with my meals, her bedtime, bath, stories.....for a few weeks it was great. Then he randomly sounds depressed af. He says our lo is better off without him, he wants to sleep all day , he asks me not to watch tv then tried playing a video game. He refused to reply to me when i asked any follow-up questions. Then he woke up our baby trying to race me to the bathroom first thing in the morning . He's doing a weird mix of crying, trying, and giving up. Im starting to feel like I cant handle him not being able to handle life with baby and just want to be alone. Are there resources for men?

Do I need to pay anything when my child starts school in September

I'm a new mum and obviously didn't grow up in the uk. I currently pay roughly £640 for nursery fees. I'm wondering if my expenses will reduce when my LO starts school or there'll be other expenses (besides bags, uniform etc) will my expenses be anywhere close to £600 monthly?