Looking for advice please - daughter being hit by another child at school

My daughter started reception 2 weeks ago and has settled in really well. But on 3 separate occasions she has come home and said a boy in her class has pushed her, pulled her and smacked her over the head. After the second occasion I spoke to the teacher at the door and was told they have some ‘boisterous’ children in the class but that they would monitor when this child was near my daughter. Then on Friday my daughter came home and said she was hit over the head by the same boy (she showed me and it was around 4/5 smacks on the top of her head) My daughter told me a teacher had seen it and said to the boy ‘that’s not very nice’. We were not told about this when we picked my daughter up. This particular boy has been hitting other children and even ‘spitting’, which has led one parent arranging a meeting with the headteacher who again had the attitude that this particular boy is ‘boisterous’ and he hits out in frustration but they would ensure her child was kept away from him.
It doesn’t seem to be effecting my daughter in the fact she’s not wanting to go to school - but I also need to know she’s going to be safe and not hurt when in there care.
Does anyone have any advice on what I should be doing at this point? Should we have been told about my daughter being smacked over the head on pick up? My daughter is the smallest in the class in terms of build and I’m so concerned she’s going to be seriously hurt by this ‘boisterous’ boy.

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I’m a teaching assistant (I work secondary but have worked primary)
It honestly depends on the school if they tell you if your child’s been hit they should absolutely be telling the other parent but they may not necessarily tell you unless she was extremely upset
School can’t really tell you what’s happening with that little boy and by that I mean anything they’re doing to correct this, sanctions as well as any reasons he may be lashing out like that!

I’d be teaching your daughter to very loudly shout no at this little boy if he comes near her/hurts her- a lot of little ones don’t feel they can but sometimes when a kid hears another kid telling them no it kind of hits home more to them that they shouldn’t be doing it!

There isn’t really much you can do - keep reporting to the school whenever she’s hit/hurt by this child well any child really! I’d be asking how they’re going to safeguard you child and ensure her safety inside the classroom from this little boy..

Thank you - that’s really helpful. I’m going to speak to the teacher at drop off tomorrow and request a meeting with her if she’s not able to speak to me at the door. We have told my daughter to use her voice when he touches her and loudly say ‘No - don’t touch me’ but her response is ‘I can’t mummy, the teacher will tell me off’ 🥹 but we will keep reiterating to do that.
She said she didn’t cry when he hit her but she said it hurt 😢

I’m so sorry this is happening. The school should be doing more. “Boisterous children” is as bad as “boys will be boys” disgusting excuse

I would be asking to speak to the headteacher, it's not acceptable, the fact he has been doing it to others as well, I would also bring that up. Teach your daughter to be loud shouting no or stop it when the boy hits her etc to get others attention. Saying he is boisterous isn't an excuse, what are they doing to correct his behaviour?

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