Feeling low

Anyone feel really low a few days postpartum? How did you help yourself? I have moments where I can’t stop crying sometimes.

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A few data after…?! Your hormones are still crazy no worries.
You may check your iron levels

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My baby is 3 months old and I still get like this at times. The hormone drop right after birth is WILD and not talked about enough. It will slowly ease up, just make sure you keep an eye on it so that it doesn’t develop into anything more severe. I watched my comfort shows, talked with friends and family and my husband about how I was feeling often, and getting outside for walks helped me immensely. Even just sitting out in the fresh air did sooo much for my mental health

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Ok good ideas. I’ve had a couple struggle days. I don’t remember feeling this way with my daughter because we traveled right after. We are also severely struggling with sleep and I feel like the middle of the day is midnight most days

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Hang in there mama, your body has been through a lot. Keep reminding yourself that it will even out. I know it’s SO hard but try to find even just a few moments for yourself

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Sending you hugs. ❤️

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Feel your emotions genuinely and understand that it’s been only a few days… it just happened girl! My son is 1 years old now and I still have those moments where I find my self bawling. What helps ease a bit is going outside on walks, putting my attention towards things that bring me personal joy, anything. With baby, just talking to them while you do things and creating that bond as if they were taking back cx haha. I always talked to my son like he was another person like they’re doing it with me. Makes me feel happy like we’re a team lol. Try and create a strong village for yourself. Accept the help, you are a mom but you are also an individual. Take advantage of help. 🩵 also, you’re not a bad mom. You got this.

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Yes I had this. Its called baby blues and for me it lasted for a few weeks. Its normal and just your hormones readjusting. Makesure you speak to your midwife about this as they can help you even if you just feel like you need abit of reassurance. Having a baby is the biggest change in life you can have. I hope everything gets better for you 💓

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Cry it out everytime, try not to bottle it up. You've given birth, it's not a small thing, this is just your body and mind's way of dealing with the changes.

Feel the moment fully, but then try to think about something else practical that you need to do, and move onto it. This helped me xx

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Totally normal. Your hormones have gone through the biggest crash youll ever have in your life. If it still continues, make sure you let your doctor know so they can offer more support. Is everything else at home ok? Xx

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we’ve gone through some big changes ourselves. We moved and my husband has changed jobs. We are very pleased with the new Location but it’s still an adjustment for all of us, especially as we try and get our house organized.

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Just go with it, it's not you, it's the hormones. Cuddle baby and rest xx

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Thank you

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I think Motherhood has made me more bitter than I realized…

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