AITA for being angry at my partner because he won’t come to my 12-week scan?

So I (28f) and my partner (34m) found out that I was pregnant 2 weeks ago… I am currently 6weeks+4. This was not a planned pregnancy. My partner was not over the moon about the pregnancy due to our current circumstances as we are currently living with my dad whilst we are in the process of buying a house and not due to move in until December. I told my partner that my 12-weeks scan is on 10th Nov and he has said that he can’t make it because he needs to save his annual leave for when we move house (renovation work needed) and can’t get the time off work. Considering this is our first child, I feel that he should go to the 12-weeks scan with me. I feel that he is not fully on board with this pregnancy because he makes little jokes and stuff about names etc however when the real talk happens, he changes subject very quickly. AITA for being angry that he won’t take the time to come with me?

Also I haven’t told my family that I am pregnant yet just in case (waiting to get out of the danger zone)

Edit- just so everyone is aware, the reason we are living with my dad is because we sold our apartment and the buyer wanted us to break chain so he can move in sooner as this one has taken some time to go through and our apartment had already been on the market a year so wanted it sold.

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That’s hard. You’re not an a-hole for sure. It’s possible he’s in denial, and I get it’s hard to get off work. I’m pretty sure if he told his boss that it was the first ultrasound they’d let him take an hour off. That was the case for my husband. I think it’s important that you let him know that you really want him there and would like the support, especially since it’s early and you don’t know what you’ll see. I know the first ultrasound was super nerve wracking for me. I told my family right away so I would have support in case of a miscarriage. It’s up to you if you don’t want to tell them, but if he won’t go with you maybe your mom would. It could make you feel better. Best of luck. I’m here for support if you need it :)

NTA. Do you really want to be with someone who doesn’t want to see their baby?

This is a hard one for me. Because he’s being responsible about not taking leave until it’s “needed”.
Could he take off afternoons without interfering with his PTO? My husband was able to do that. And I just scheduled them all later in the day. But he wanted to come, I just needed to arrange accordingly. It’s the.. lack of interest for me that I find an issue.

You’re not the ah for wanting him there, and being upset about it. But he’s also not being exactly an ah for being distant this .. early.

I would ask him if it’s that he doesn’t care or want to see them? His response to that will tell you a lot.
If it’s no, then might wanna rethink everything tbh

But if it’s I do, I just also want to be able to fix our home for them before they’re here. (Which like aw, responsible. Love that for you) then maybe try to find a way to compromise. Like he go to the first and like last, or as I said he take afternoons off for them.

But you’re not the ah, main point

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We landed on the idea of giving him the 90's kid treatment. A computer in the living room for us to keep an eye on what hes doing online, and once we feel hes mature enough to hang with friends without adult supervision he gets a flip phone. When we feel he is responsible enough and he earns and saves up the money for the physical phone, case, and screen cover, then we will be happy to take him to get a smart phone.

I thought this was air tight, but now my brother says its cruel to give a kid a flip phone, and besides he can just use his friends phones at school.

My husband and i remember a time before the internet, and we remember having complete access to something no one understood yet. We saw unspeakable things and are always battling with the urge to put the phone and social media down. I dont want that for my son, especially with his brain so vulnerable still.

If your partners parent passes away

And you and that parent didn't get along are you still go to the funeral?

Not my situation!

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