Partner not understanding

Earlier, I had a breakdown because I am absolutely knackered (might sound absolutely ridiculous). I’ve got two kids, 4, who has been hating on me since I had the baby who is 8 months. I’m still on maternity leave.
I do all the night wakings, early morning wakings, cooking, house cleaning, putting kids to bed. My husband goes to work mon-Fri 8:30-5.
After my breakdown, I explained how tired I am, how I feel like my body is slowly giving up as my back is the worst it’s ever been, I feel very overwhelmed, I can’t relax at all during the day with having a million other thoughts going on in my head and I said I just need a night where I can sleep all night and not wake up so my body can reset and his answer was go to bed early, it’ll help.
Nothing about offering to wake up for baby in the night or wake up with kids in the morning.
Do I need to spell it out for him?!!🫠😰😩

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Ok so my husband goes to work sometimes as early as 5am but when he’s home and our little one wouldn’t sleep much yet HE was the one getting up in the morning so I could sleep at least till 630/7!
He would get me for th first morning sleep but that he would do .
Just cause our husbands work and are the money makers does not mean when they get home or before they go to work that they can not help. But I also have to say to my husbands defense . I had to tell him what I need .

Yes be direct. It’s true he should have offered, but it also true that you need to be direct. But think of Maslow hierarchy of needs. Get some sleep first, then have a deeper conversation with hubby about what you have been feeling. Sounds like lots of resentment, which is totally understandable. He isn’t going to ever completely “get it”. But he can practice better listening skills and agree to share more responsibilities.

Yes, talk to your husband and spell it out for him. If he's not willing to assist more after that, then you have more serious issues. Just because he's working full time doesn't mean he's exempt from being a father. My husband works m-f 330pm-12am and when he gets home and gets in the bed, I do all the baby duties so he can get his rest. And when he's well rested, he takes over baby duties so that I can get my rest. I do a majority of the house cleaning, but while I'm asleep he'll still help by washing the dishes, run a load or two of laundry and takes out the trash. Raising kids should be a joint effort.
Also, some of your other complaints might be ppa or ppd. After getting some rest and talking with your husband, if your anxiety and feelings of being overwhelmed still persist, I recommend talking to a doctor and/or therapist.

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