I overheard my husband talking shit on me to his friends…

I do everything for my husband. I cook, clean, take care of the kids, and I’m also the primary provider financially.

Tonight, he had a bunch of people over and they were being very rude and disrespectful. My final straw was when someone gave my 5 year old a nerf gun and he shot the dog, I tried to take the gun, and mid tantrum he ripped both earring out of my ear and I was bleeding everywhere. I walked back towards the bathroom and my husband, who missed the scene, asked if I was okay and I said No.

He didn’t follow to check on me or ask what happened, but when I came out of the bathroom I heard him apologize to all our guests that I was being a bitch and that I “don’t know how to be a mom for even 15 minutes.”

I collected the kids and left immediately. As I was leaving he yelled if I leave he we are done. I’m at my mom’s now, and he’s texting me but I am so pissed and don’t know how to come back from this.

That was not the man I married, who’s always defended me. I don’t even know what to think right now.

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I would have been so tempted to yell back “oh no! Whatever will I do without having to take care of a grown man?” I think leaving to figure out what you need to do is the best decision you could have made.

That 👏🏼 is 👏🏼 not 👏🏼 a 👏🏼 man.
He’s a bad example of a father… What a dick!! He doesn’t deserve you nor that child.

I’m sorry, YOU’RE the primary provider financially? And he disrespected you in this way?! I’d be done unless he agreed to therapy. Men start acting this way when they feel emasculated.

Mom. You did a good job leaving! You could have done a lot more that you would regret later on. So that's the first step you took. You seem smart, so now you not need to start thinking about the fact that y'all might never get along. I need you to start thinking legally since there is a kid involved, use google, chat gpt, I don't care. If you have genuinely left him, he will always have the right to acess you through that child. You need to protect yourself. I know it's a spur of the moment and you might end up back with him. But I'm here to ask you to be smart going forward ❤️.

Oh brother. He sounds very immature. I know he will regret it all when his friends aren't around and he's alone. That was 💩 behavior. I'm sorry that happened, mama.

He spent the night at his “girl best friends” house last night. Said he wanted a “kid free night”. But she has more kids than we do, who were all home and awake. Also, this girl just appeared randomly one day, but allegedly he’s known her and they’ve been friends longer than we’ve been together. I think I’m saying at my mom’s and asking for a divorce.

LEAVE HIM! It literally sounds like he does nothing for you

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I've finally done it

I have finally done it. I have finally become the trope, the stereotype.

I have become bitter, resentful, and very overwhelmed and overloaded. I am very unhappy and hit burnout. And I snapped at my husband last night. I work full-time, and work has been very busy so im working late a lot. Im also in grad school. I also have a toddler that has become VERY clingy with me. My husband works shorter days but commutes, so he usually gets home after me by an hour or more. When he gets home, he usually heads to the restroom for at least 30 mins when he gets home. And now my toddler doesnt want anything to do with him. So im doing all the toddler duties until bed. I dont get 5 mins to myself. Not for almost 2 years. I finally hit my wall. I have also, somehow, become my MILs medical ride service and she somehow has an appt every week, it seems?! Shes not sick!! My husband was complaining that he needs to change routine to fit in a workout sometimes, and I lost it. I have been BEGGING for 5 mins to myself for months. I have been telling him how im not good, im going to burn out for months. And between his attitude and him complaining (which really got me b/c he blames me for not being able to work out?! Saying I need help when he gets home so he just cant workout now) I just lost it completely. I told him how unfair my life has become and I have the entire mental and emotional load and it is just not fair. He got mad at me and said "hes trying" when hes literally not trying at all. What do I do?? No one is taking the load from me! And im done and dont know what to do now.
I do not like this version of me.

Is this clever or cruel?

My husband and i were talking and with social media and the internet in general being a terrifying dumpster fire, we are trying to figure out the best way to keep our son safe while still teaching him how to safely be online and moderation.

We landed on the idea of giving him the 90's kid treatment. A computer in the living room for us to keep an eye on what hes doing online, and once we feel hes mature enough to hang with friends without adult supervision he gets a flip phone. When we feel he is responsible enough and he earns and saves up the money for the physical phone, case, and screen cover, then we will be happy to take him to get a smart phone.

I thought this was air tight, but now my brother says its cruel to give a kid a flip phone, and besides he can just use his friends phones at school.

My husband and i remember a time before the internet, and we remember having complete access to something no one understood yet. We saw unspeakable things and are always battling with the urge to put the phone and social media down. I dont want that for my son, especially with his brain so vulnerable still.

AITA?

This isn't a major issue, just wondering if I'm being a bit of an asshole.

• I do shift work, 5 out of 7 days, full-time.
• My partner works from home (mostly, sometimes he goes into the office) M-F, full-time.

Anyway, whenever I have a day off during the week he gets in his feelings when I make myself food (breakfast and lunch) but not him. His reason is he's working, I'm not - Which is fair but I've asked him how many times on a weekend has he gotten up, on his day off and made me breakfast and a lunch to take with me to work? You guessed it, 0.

So basically, just because I'm at home I don't think the responsibility to feed him should automatically fall on me when he manages to feed himself just fine while I'm at work.

If your partners parent passes away

And you and that parent didn't get along are you still go to the funeral?

Not my situation!

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Has anyone else been told it won’t start until May?

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