We went to a Christmas market and he saw the dodgems and went running up. He’s been on them loads of times at the fair but here they said he was too small which is fair enough. But he was just not having it, he started screaming and crying and no matter what I did he wouldn’t move away. I can’t pick him up when he’s like that because he just fights it. Whilst I was trying to comfort him and calm him a few people did have to go past us to get to the entrance and I apologised. Just as my son was finally starting to calm down the man behind the till came and shouted ‘can you get him out of here please’ to which I responded do you not think that’s what I’m trying to do, he’s calmed down now but you’ve obviously never had children if you don’t understand how hard it is and his response was ‘I have but I know how to be a good parent unlike you’. My son was now distraught again and crying because he thought he was in trouble and I was mortified. Then as we were walking away a security guard tapped me on the shoulder and started also having a go at me. This man had called security because a child was having a tantrum. The security guard told me to never come back to the market again. Because my child cried!! I feel so upset. I obviously am a terrible parent, my son just can not handle being told no but I don’t know what I’m doing wrong or how to make it better. The only thing I can do in these situations is let him cry it out but I was made to feel like shit and even kicked out of an event for doing that!
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God love you :( that sounds like an awful day. I would put in a complaint. How dare they.
My son doesn't always understand no either. It's hard!! Trying to pick him up is hard too when he's in a thick coat etc. Those people seriously have no compassion. None of this is your fault so please never ever think that. You aren't terrible, youre not doing anything wrong. You're a fantastic mummy. Love and hugs xx

Oh this sounds awful! It isn't a reflection of you, or your parenting. It's hard when they're so young, tantrums are natural they don't understand no at this age and it takes a lot of patience to handle the situation calmly. The last thing you need is some random throwing out shitty judgemental comments!! Sod them. You've done nothing wrong at all, don't spend another minute doubting yourself because of sad aggressive strangers, you're doing a great job! Hope you're ok! ❤️