My husband gets upset when I ask him to wear a condom

Girl if I was 22 with 4 kids I would’ve make him wear condoms also but then again we can still get pregnant maybe try birth control

Crazy how he thinks you can’t get pregnant while on your period when you tell him you can..😂 I would take him to a obgyn appointment and have them explain it to him. If he doesn’t want to use a condom I would tell him to get snipped and he wouldn’t have to worry about you getting pregnant and if yall want more kids later he can undo it. 🤷🏼‍♀️ if he really doesn’t want to use a condom he can have the procedure and if he doesn’t want to then clearly he doesn’t want it that bad. No man should push you to have sex when you aren’t ready. I am sorry you have to go through that, he should understand where you’re coming from and give you time.

Oh hun I'm so sorry. This is alot. 22 with 4 kids? That's alot so young. Have you thought about maybe getting on bc? Maybe the non hormonal iud? Some women end up seriously regretting motherhood when they've had so many so early in life.

Also your husband does not sound like he respects your no, and just thinks about sex for his own pleasure. He should be doing things to stimulate you. Are you doing therapy for your trauma? Have you thought about yall doing therapy together so he can understand how you feel?

You can definitely get pregnant on your period. He sounds like he is pushing you. He should love you and not push you. There’s times where I go over a month where I can’t have sex after I had my son. My man just did his business and understood.he seen what I went through giving birth. He was the one that wanted to wear condoms.

just want to be honest with you because I went through something really similar, and it wasn’t easy or perfect. After having my baby, my sex drive was really low, and it wasn’t because I didn’t love or want my husband. I was healing, dealing with health stuff, afraid of getting pregnant again, and just not mentally there yet.
What made it harder was that from his point of view, he was always being shut down, so he felt rejected and didn’t really understand what was going on deeper for me. I don’t think some men are great at understanding the emotional side of sex especially when they’re the ones initiating and getting turned down.

For me, what helped (even though it doesn’t sound glamorous) was realizing that intimacy mattered to him in a really deep way, and I had to be intentional about working toward it instead of waiting to magically feel ready. That meant taking care of my body and mindset, but also telling him very clearly what I needed like more flirting, more sweetness,-

more emotional effort — so I could actually get in the right headspace.

Over time, as I healed and felt more supported (and honestly once I got the copper IUD and the pregnancy fear was gone), things did get better. It wasn’t instant, but it improved little by little.

I’m not saying this is easy at all — just sharing my experience in case any part of it helps you feel less alone.

Another thing I had to come to terms with is that men and women often experience intimacy really differently. For a lot of men, sex is a primary way they feel loved, desired, and connected even if they aren’t great at explaining it emotionally. That doesn’t mean women should ignore their own needs or push past their limits, but it does mean intimacy plays a big role in how they feel secure in a relationship.
I hate that it can feel like leaning into gender roles, because it shouldn’t be one-sided. But for me, understanding that this is just how my partner is wired helped me see sex less as pressure and more as something that protects the relationship as long as it’s paired with support, patience, and effort from both sides.

Wait so he's a bit dirty, not bringing in any money, doesn't assist with house work and lacking as a father?! Nope nope nope, no woman would want to give this man some of their body. There's zero incentive. All of this is a turn off

Oh ok. Totally understand why you can't use an iud. He needs to work on himself and try to understand how you feel. There definitely need to be more effort on his part to help you get there emotionally to want to be physical

tell him to get sniped. then see the reaction

No glove, no love, dude. 🤷