Co sleeping help/reassurance/advice

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My baby girl (4MO) is going through a Velcro baby stage at the moment where she only wants to sleep ON us - not next to us - on us 😂 are other people having this issue? How are we combating it? Or are we just letting them do it despite the safe sleep stuff… or is there a way to do it safely that I don’t know about? We’ve only done it a handful of times but when she sleeps on me in the day she’s never done anything where I’ve had to intervene, and when we have slept together at night if she stirs I wake up… just any advice or reassurance would be amazing because I’m starting to lose my mind with it a little bit 😂 thanks in advance x

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Follow the Happy CoSleeper on IG, she’s amazing and gives so many helpful tips x

Have a look on UK co-sleeping they’re great for advice and look at safe sleep 7! My eldest had to sleep next to me for the first 6 months and then slept on her on although she does come into bed at 5am for cuddles and to sleep for a few more hours but I love it! Try transferring her during naps,I tried different mattress’s and different white noise sounds she did nap on her own just wasn’t a fan at night that just took a bit longer x

Hi! I’ve been co sleeping with my little one for months and use the c position. Have a little Google and look at images for c shape/cuddle curl. This works best for me as he would wake up often in the night (still does 😅) and I found it the easiest way to settle/comfort him. Also you’re likely at the four month regression which is why it might be feeling a bit harder! I hope this helps ❤️

Whilst there's no official guidance on chest sleeping, you can make it safer to do. Happy cosleeper has a guide, but the main things to know are to make sure baby's head is higher than their bum, to not prop your arms with cushions but make sure the bed is clear around you in case they slip off (I always wake as soon as they shift anyway!) Covers should be kept at waist height for you, and baby should be dressed lightly as they are also getting your body heat.
My son started chest sleeping at 4 months too, and then over time I managed to get him sleeping next to me on the bed with me in c curl. My daughter would only chest sleep from birth, and now at 2 months I manage to get her onto the bed sometimes.

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