Navigating life with two kids!

I found baby wearing really helped in the early days as I could still get things done and be around for my other children, plus it helped soothe baby to stop any crying.

Could your husband do half of the night (say 7pm-11pm) just so you can get your head down for a bit?

You’re doing a great job, just remember this stage isn’t forever and it does get easier ❤️ x

Why isn't dad helping ?
School run is hard but can he help in the evening or after school ?

Mum of 3 x

You will get into a routine, it’s still very early days for you!

Dad has been helping but he works 4 days straight now Wednesdays to Saturdays 11am - 11pm so my heads all over 🥴🥴🥴

It will get better! I was feeling like that when my husband went back to work but now that my little one is 7 weeks I can say we have stablished a routine that works for us.

When he was 2 weeks I wore him on the carrier for most of the time while getting my eldest ready for school

I would say the same as above. Could you partner do feeds between 7 and midnight so you can get a decent amount of sleep. I try and get up before kids to do stuff. Is there any option your child could have school dinners just to help with pressure. Or prep start of week or hubby to help mark. Think we can all say we wing it and fake it until we make it. Honestly be kind in yourself and make a list of things that must be done. Can people help you with some dinners or batch cook so stuff. Make dinners that are easy, jacket potato’s, spag bowl, pies. Honestly new born trencha can be rough. Your doing great x

I also have an 8 year old and a 3 week old and honestly either set alarms for feeding that way you know you'll have time for everything else or ask friends/family for help if you can, they say it takes a village and its so true during those early weeks

If he’s working 11am until 11pm is there any chance when he’s home from work he could take over until around 1/2am so you could have a few hours sleep. Monday & Tuesday he could help a bit more with him being off work. It’s all about team work and him pulling his weight just as much as you.

You are doing amazing & you’ll soon settle into routine! Xx

We’re lucky that a class mate lives opposite us so they do the morning school run for us! With a 9 week old baby and a toddler it was really tricky for us leaving to do the run in the morning to get 8 year old to school. Maybe try to find someone near you who you could share with? If you have a WhatsApp group maybe message in there and see if anyone is close by?

I still struggle with mornings even with the school run taken care of, it’s a juggle and can be very depressing when you’re so tired and split between everyone’s needs but your own. Hang in there x

So dad works 11-11
That's fine. He could take the kids to school. I'm sure he's in bed by 12am and the if he's up at 8 to help that's 8 hours sleep !

And if he does shifts then it's 4 on 4 off so he can help when he's off

We relied on ready meal companies in the first weeks and months and very simple meals. For school runs I used a baby carrier and later doona (car seat+pushchair all in one- lifesaver if you drive). You’ll get used to it and baby will cry less and adapt as time passes. You’re in the early days, it’s still very new. I’ve asked friends and neighbours to help with some school runs, playdates etc which helped a bit. Also leaving a lot of responsibility on my partner who came back to work at 3 weeks postpartum…it’s teamwork