Am I being a door mat?

Hi I’m considering separating from my husband, he’s a great guy but has these outbursts which are just awful. We had an argument 5 days ago he has then spent the entire time calling me names. Keeps calling me a fat bit*** and a c**t and all kinds of things, I haven’t spoken to him for days but he keeps going on. We have an 11 year old and a 3 year old, the toddler is non the wiser but I can see it really affects our older one. He keeps saying he can’t wait to leave me and we all should move out because he’s not leaving. Am I just being an idiot staying for someone who would speak to me like that? I don’t want to break up a family or be divorced but I’m worried what the harm it’s having on our children.

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You’re in an emotionally and verbally abusive relationship my lovely. He has no respect or love for you. No normal person would EVER be calling their loved one a cunt/bitch. He hates you and by staying you are only delaying the inevitable. Things will only get worse. They will NOT get better. Once abuse has entered a relationship, it’s done. There is no coming back from it.

You’re not the one breaking up the family, that’s all on him. Your children are going to suffer massively if you stay. Far better to divorce and co-parent and be happy, than together and miserable.

Speak to Women’s Aid for more help.

https://womensaid.org.uk

He needs to stop speaking to you like this it’s disgusting, especially in front of the kids. You’re saying your 3 year old is non the wiser but they’re like little sponges at this point they will both pick up everything and it’s not a nice environment to live in, you need a proper convo with him and if nothing changes time apart as it’s not healthy for u or the kids if he still Dosent change then leaving would probably be the best thing to do in this situation.
I’m sure the kids would prefer there parents apart but happy if it got to that

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