To any full time working from home mums!
I'll be going back to full time work in late October/November time and trying to wrap my head around what to do with my daughter during the week.
She will be just over a year old and I have a nursery spot for her 2 days a week using government funding for when I'm in the office but can't afford to put her in for extra days. I work from home 3 days of the week and thinking I'll set her up in a playpen next to my desk while I work (I'm a copywriter) - does anyone have experience doing this?
How did it go? Were you able to work properly and look after your baby?
(Side note: there are grandparents literally 5 minutes away who have free days in the week but they refuse to help out with my daughter past picking her up from nursery).
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Hiya ! I go back to work next month. Baby is 6 month old.
Can you catch up on work in the evenings ? Do you have a flexible role where as long as it gets done it doesn't matter when etc could you swap with your partner and when he gets home to get the bulk of work done
My job is flexible, so I compress my hours over 3.5 days and pick up work in the evenings. I’ve tried to wfh on the odd occasion, but it’s impossible without neglecting my work or my child, so I wouldn’t recommend it.
Also work will expect you to have childcare if they find out it could mean losing it. Unless it's freelance and not employed. The bigger they get the more of a handful they are I don't think the two are possible really
Really would not recommend this - you'll end up feeling like the worst copywriter and worst mum all in one. The absolute worst of both worlds.
Check your work policy, many companies stipulate you must have childcare if working from home.
Most UK employers will not allow you to be in sole charge of a minor during paid work hours. I think you may need to rethink your plan
Hey! I’m so sorry to jump on this but what do you do for work? I’m desperately looking to work from home 🙏🏼
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