need advice
so i emotionally cheated on my partner a little while back. i’m not going to try and excuse myself or any of that BS. we were going through a very rough patch and i turned to someone else for comfort. we have since decided to move on and continue with our lives.
now he already has a 6 year old to a previous relationship and i love him like he is my own, but i am so desperate for our own baby. we want to get married in our church before we start trying but he keeps saying that it’s going to be further away than planned because of what happened. which i feel
is fair enough.
however i can’t help but be upset often because i just have such a desire to be a mother, i feel like i was born to be a mum and it breaks my heart a little bit more everyday not knowing when we will have our own.
any advice would be appreciated
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A ring and a piece of paper doesn't make a relationship work. It just makes it harder to leave it.
Being a mother puts stress and strain on your relationship.
You absolutely need to be in a good place to be focusing on the future together.
Have these conversations now.
Money, finances, parenting styles, nursery , stay at home mum, etc all these things need talking about before marriage and children.
It's better to wait than rush in and put an already strained relationship under more strain.
If you were TTC before why do you need to wait till after the wedding now? Is he having second thoughts about everything?
I think you need to set some time aside and have an honest conversation
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