Describing mental load to husband

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It takes more patience for a meat head . I love your life I think it sounds like you are doing great. I think you know yourself you aren’t doing that good at describing the mental load because you used words like “ made a big deal” and “Frustrated” when delegating chores so that’s the first step to solving the solution is finding the problem You can solve. Ur husbands head being dense is not in your hands but it being easier for you lays in the work you put into yourself. Simple things like tone, respect and saying please in a soft voice. Being more vulnerable instead of demanding could make it EASIER for your husband to UNDERSTAND and encourage and motivate him to want to help and spend time with you by picking up some of the burden. And if you don’t think I’m rude I would love to hear how to be more like you if you have any time to spare.

Stops having sex, if that doesn’t work then Leave. It works, that’s the only way they learn.

Men need to hear the honest truth no matter what. Real and direct without disrespect. Without crying without screaming.
I felt out of love years ago but I still stayed and he could sense that. So he rebelled in different ways, pushing my boundaries so I could finally explode open up and be honest and tell him how I truly felt about him. His approach was not the best (bc he’s avoidant n no ones perfect) but it worked. I finally did what I always wanted to do and left and was direct with him. So now he feels he’s living in the truth not fakeness and he can work with that.

women ask “why do men want to do things right after we break up?“ it’s bc we kept having sex with them and giving them chances instead of acting on how we really feel which is to stand up for ourselves and leave. Cuz trust me if u had the money u would have left long time ago

Girl. Men learn by experience. Literally… trade places. Let him do it. He will learn. Ask him to meal prep and grocery shop, plan a date, and any of the orher invisible labor women do. I let my husband read these complaints on this app to help him see… he wants to outperform other men so he tries! I also have him do it since he think it easy… he then learns.