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I have been with my man for 2 years. Found out I was pregnant about 2 months after we started dating. Everything was amazing up until I told him I was pregnant and it was like a switch had flipped instantly. From the last 3 weeks I have 5 hours and 20 minutes worth of recording of him yelling and manipulating and gaslighting me. I did not realize how mentally abusive he is or that the fact that waking up with him on top of me with my pants off is considered sexual abuse. I can’t believe how much he has done and even with everything I have stuck around because I thought he couldn’t do anything without me. I’m done doing everything for him. We live with my grandparents and the only reason we live here is because we have 2 incomes. I’m worried that if I kick him out they will kick me and my son out as well because there will no longer be 2 incomes. I tried to tell them I was done last night and that I had the recordings and proof of bruises he has left on me and they said they did not care and if I kick him out, they will take and sell my car (they helped me get it because my old car was leaking exhaust into my backseat). He messaged me yesterday accusing me of cheating on him when I’ve been at his moms the last week because I can’t listen to him yell at me anymore. I’ve been gone before he gets up but he doesn’t wake up until 1pm and been home after he’s at work and in bed before he gets home at 11 or 12. I didn’t realize until I was told yesterday but our son does not speak around him or move if he is around. He has yelled at our son and smacked his hands in front of him and he flinches if someone laughs to loud and gets scared and I didn’t realize how traumatized my son is because of this man. I will be filing for sole custody and supervised visitation at a cps building only. The only way I could kick him out is by getting a second job and never seeing my son because I’d have to keep up the 2 incomes. I don’t know what to do anymore. I’m scared he’s going to hurt or kill me. I don’t feel safe in my own home anymore. I have blown up an air mattress in my son’s room and have been sleeping in there and locking the door at night. Idk what to do anymore. I just need some advice
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It's a price to pay but maybe look into getting a single bedroom unit for now and moving out it will be tough but get out if not for yourself but for your son as well as put a restraining order against him for you and your son it's gonna be very confronting but feel free to message me I'd be happy to listen
I would say look more for a studio apartment to help cut down on costs and build you up a bit more comfortably. It will be hard in the beginning, but it WILL be worth it. Your son will thank you later.
We pay $500 in rent to live in my grandparents basement, rent for a studio or a 1 bed is over $1000 and I struggle paying half of the $500. I am on government assistance and I applied for housing when I found out I was pregnant and was denied which is why I had to move in with him and then he quit his job shortly after I moved in so we lost our apartment and that’s why we had to move into my grandparents basement
I would say look into programs for abused women and children in your local area. They can help you finish school, get a career, provide shelter. Some do you have age restrictions so just be aware of that as well. I wish you all the best and I hope you could find help 🥺💕
Write a post in Nextdoor app inquirig if any local resources that can help you…https://nextdoor.com/!FF3HWL
Waking up with your pants down isn’t inherently SA, but if you have never talked about him waking you in the mornings for sex, then yeah it is. If you tell him to stop, and he continues. That’s 100% SA.
Genuinely curious, what does two incomes have to do with you staying at your grandparents? If you have two incomes, there’s no reason you don’t have your own place.
Go to a shelter
He’s been a bad person the majority of your relationship aside from the first two months. He’s shown you the real him. Starting over sucks but you’ll be thankful you did
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