Stop complaining
About not making friends with someone if you don't know how to hold a conversation . If you don't try I won't try either
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A common problem
I find it ironic how someone makes a whole post looking for friends/asking for mums to chat with. Then she gets like 10-15 mums in the comments saying āmsg me!ā Then the same mum a month later makes the exact same post - āIām bored, looking for mums to chat to!ā And Iām thinking, well what happened to the 10-15 mums that msg you last month, obv they couldnāt continue a convo w any of those girls? Then you wonder whoās problem it really is.
Omg seriously why I stop using this app. I find a lot of people just flat out dont know how to conversate anymore. They dont ask questions in return, its all one sided and the moment its not poof their gone. No one wants a one sided friendship or we'd be friends with everyone. Im a legit one...message me cause im not like that lol
I try, I really try. But having 2 daughters who are toddlers and 10 months apart in age combined with me having undiagnosed ADHD makes it extremely hard for me to hold a conversation. š I'm hoping it'll get better in the next year or 2, but right now caring for them and our home takes up all of my mental bandwidth.
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Looking for bestie
Hey yāall! This is meghanš Iām currently looking for some genuine friends that I can talk to about anything and everythingāno judgment, just real friendship. ā¤ļø
I currently live in Kentucky, but Iām definitely open to building friendships with people from all over the world! š Distance doesnāt bother me.
Iām a mom of sevenāsix of my babies are here with me, and one is my angel. ā¤ļø Iām also a BIG texter š, so if youāre looking for someone who actually enjoys talking and getting to know each other, just message me!
If youāre interested in becoming friends, send me a message. Iād love to get to know you! š
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Alone!
We supposed to be in a relationship, however since being pregnant he just doesnt really care, mind you when I found out I was pregnant I was only 7 weeks i am now 19 weeks,he seemed happy and begged me to not terminate it ( I was not doing it regardless) he continues his life like nothing happens doesnt offer to help in any kind of wayā¦ we dont live together which i prefer it this way, however he doesnt care at all of how I am feeling or if I need anything ,mind you I am working more hours than a clock and he has not offered to even buy me a meal, if i dont text or call I dont know about him and when I stop doing it he accuses me of ignoring him like be for real š¤¦š½āāļøso frustratingā¦ i am really thinking into ending this relationshipā¦
Any advice/thoughts?
I am going through my pregnancy alone
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New mum friends!
Hey guys!
I'm looking for new mum friends to go to groups with, out for coffee (or hot chocolate if you aren't a coffee fan like me) to message & rant to! Not just message onceš
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Back to work & Iām barely holding it all together
Anyone else feel like they are barely holding it all together??? I just want to scream. How do we work full time (to be honest- more than full time while people gaslight and say we should be able to get it all done within the workday), keep house, and have time to be a mama? I just want to stay home and be a mama, but that is not at all financially possible so how do I manage it all? Does anyone know of any jobs that pay around 75K (yes- willing to take a slight pay cut if needed although finances are tight) that is part time, work from home, or simply clock in clock out? My milk supply is declining because of stress and my mental health is rapidly declining.
For context- Iām in special education administration.
Yes- my husband helps a lot.
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Friends search
Looking for my bestie match. Someone thatāll eventually feel like family. Someone true and down to earth. A friend to my face and behind my back when Iām not in the room. We can FaceTime when weāre comfortable with that, send memes, vent about whatever. I genuinely want someone I can go to when I need someone to talk to and vice versa. Iām not looking for a group chat. Tbh Iāve tried those. Iām in a few right now and I just donāt feel that connection. At least not yet.
~Iām 29 and I have three kiddos. One of my kiddos is a heart warrior so Iām also a medical mama. I live in California, I donāt mind a long distance friendship. Iām almost always with my kids. You can find me doing crafts , watching a tv show, or jamming out to some music. I listen to 90s/early 2000s rap, r&b, country etc. Iām married, I have two dogs and a pineapple green cheek conure š¦. Iām not really a gamer but Iāve been trying to get into it a little bit since my husband is. I get migraines daily so sometimes if Iām responding in a lag thatās usually why or Iām just busy with my kids. Iām also dealing with mental health and I believe it is important to prioritize that.
If you feel we could be friends please comment š«¶
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Friend being weird or not?
Long story short we used to talk a lot but she doesnāt work and I started working full time so couldnāt keep up with all her messages (she sends essay long texts all the time, multiple 10+ minute long voicenotes, sometimes 50+ pics and vids). My replies slowed down and would reply only when I had time on the weekends or some nights but I couldnāt respond everyday sometimes just once a week.
All of this was communicated multiple times and I apologised multiple times and explained I simply donāt have that much time. Before I started working we would meet up occasionally for a coffee or quick lunch a few times, but ever since my replies slowed she avoided and never acknowledged when I offered to meet.
She then eventually told me she canāt āget back to the place we used to beā because sheās hurt and thatās why she canāt meet with me but maybe in the future. Now sheās constantly messaging me HUGE long messages every single day, like essays, always talking about herself and her life and everything sheās up to etc, long voicenotes and pictures etc. I saw her one day and she crossed to the other side of the road when she saw me which I thought was weird. I mentioned again in a voice note about catching up in person one day but she didnāt acknowledge that part.
So this time I deliberate decided to write it plain and simple in a short text that she canāt ignore. I just wanted to know because if she doesnāt ever feel like she can get back to a place to see me (we live close) then why is she constantly texting me all the time and itās 90% about herself and Iām getting annoyed now.
I cut her response in photo below because it was a long text she sent about herself and her life etc but you can see she only responded shortly before I my question about meeting up and it was vague and obvious she is trying to avoid it. She didnāt say sure, what day? When?
Just to add, thereās nothing going on in her life causing this, she has more free time now than before, she has told me before summer she doesnāt want to meet because she ācanāt get back to that place with meā, but I donāt understand why sheās going out of her way to message so much
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