A dilemma

For background to this I have an almost 2 year old boy. He is my absolute world but by no means do I spoil him. I set clear rules, I tell him no and I tell him off when he does wrong. However, he has recently become very, very attached to me and I mean lack of personal space attached. He goes to a childminder 3 days a week who he adores and walks in and never looks back at me. But today when I had to take a phonecall and wasn’t giving him attention he had a meltdown. His daddy took him outside and he just continued to meltdown. I am pregnant and due with our second in May. I held my friend’s baby the other day and he absolutely lost it. All of this has me extremely worried of what things will be come May. Any advice?

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I'd say he can sense a change is coming soon with the new baby on way and he needs attention and to know that your still his safe space. If I were you, I would clear the calendar entirely for a day or 2 and just spend them with your boy with no distractions at all. Aside from that is maybe get a book from the library for him about being a big brother.

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No advice but just to say this is totally normal (but challenging) behaviour for his age. Apparently they can sense a change in hormones as well. It will just be an adjustment for you all x

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