Advice please!!
Hey, I’m 23 and just been diagnosed with fibromyalgia. I have a 10 month old and I am really struggling with the extreme fatigue. I’m finding harder and harder every day I ache I always have a headache, it’s just tough out here. At the moment even putting my baby in his bed is tear inducing and I feel I put so much on my partner and that weighs heavy on me, even though he is literally an angel with it.
Anyway I would really like to give my boy a sibling one day but I also know this illness could get worse over time. I’m scared that we won’t be able to have another due to my fatigue and pain. So I think for us it’s start trying now or just enjoy our little boy. However I am super worried about what having another will do to my body and I just don’t know where to go. The doctors have been super unhelpful and not told me much about it so I have had to do my own research.
Any advice or opinions would be super appreciated as this is not a decision I thought I’d have to be making at 23 🩵🩵
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I have had fibromyalgia since 2008, my little girl is almost 3. I waited so long until I felt ready to have a baby, until my symptoms were as stable as possible. I have decided to only have one child as I don’t think my body could cope with another (plus I’m 39). It’s so hard being a parent with a chronic illness and I have a lot of help from my parents and my mother in law. There’s no shame in only having one child if that’s all you think you and your body can manage. It’s a really hard decision to make, I felt and still feel at times really sad as I would have liked to have given my daughter a sibling.
Accept as much help as you can, don’t be afraid to ask for help (I find this really hard personally) and be really kind to yourself.
Once your baby is mobile it’s easier in terms of lifting and carrying but then it’s hard as they are so active. Every stage presents a challenge that healthy parents don’t even think about.
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