Advice please!!

Hey, I’m 23 and just been diagnosed with fibromyalgia. I have a 10 month old and I am really struggling with the extreme fatigue. I’m finding harder and harder every day I ache I always have a headache, it’s just tough out here. At the moment even putting my baby in his bed is tear inducing and I feel I put so much on my partner and that weighs heavy on me, even though he is literally an angel with it.

Anyway I would really like to give my boy a sibling one day but I also know this illness could get worse over time. I’m scared that we won’t be able to have another due to my fatigue and pain. So I think for us it’s start trying now or just enjoy our little boy. However I am super worried about what having another will do to my body and I just don’t know where to go. The doctors have been super unhelpful and not told me much about it so I have had to do my own research.

Any advice or opinions would be super appreciated as this is not a decision I thought I’d have to be making at 23 🩵🩵

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I have had fibromyalgia since 2008, my little girl is almost 3. I waited so long until I felt ready to have a baby, until my symptoms were as stable as possible. I have decided to only have one child as I don’t think my body could cope with another (plus I’m 39). It’s so hard being a parent with a chronic illness and I have a lot of help from my parents and my mother in law. There’s no shame in only having one child if that’s all you think you and your body can manage. It’s a really hard decision to make, I felt and still feel at times really sad as I would have liked to have given my daughter a sibling.

Accept as much help as you can, don’t be afraid to ask for help (I find this really hard personally) and be really kind to yourself.

Once your baby is mobile it’s easier in terms of lifting and carrying but then it’s hard as they are so active. Every stage presents a challenge that healthy parents don’t even think about.

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My husband and i were talking and with social media and the internet in general being a terrifying dumpster fire, we are trying to figure out the best way to keep our son safe while still teaching him how to safely be online and moderation.

We landed on the idea of giving him the 90's kid treatment. A computer in the living room for us to keep an eye on what hes doing online, and once we feel hes mature enough to hang with friends without adult supervision he gets a flip phone. When we feel he is responsible enough and he earns and saves up the money for the physical phone, case, and screen cover, then we will be happy to take him to get a smart phone.

I thought this was air tight, but now my brother says its cruel to give a kid a flip phone, and besides he can just use his friends phones at school.

My husband and i remember a time before the internet, and we remember having complete access to something no one understood yet. We saw unspeakable things and are always battling with the urge to put the phone and social media down. I dont want that for my son, especially with his brain so vulnerable still.

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