Breastfeeding guilt

Hey mommas! So I am 1 month & 2 weeks pp. Breast feeding has been a journey from the beginning. From cracked & sore nipples, not latching properly, lactation appointments, etc. I just had gallbladder surgery last week. I am 1 week pp from that & it has been a journey. I think about quitting breast feeding cause I’m not pumping enough & so tired mentally but I have mom guilt. Mind you I do both breast milk and formula due to me not producing enough. Any advice on how to help me decide what’s best for my baby and my mental health?

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I was in the same boat for a while in the begging I was pumping every 2 hrs for 30 min and I would get a lot and then I moved to every 3-4 hrs when he would eat I would pump and my supply dropped to 0.5 oz from a pump and knew I wouldn’t be able to feed him so I bagged and froze all the milk o produced and he’s formula fed and my frozen milk is for emergency’s I understand the mom guilt, but fed is best and moms who shame you for using formula and not breast milk are wrong, do what’s best for your baby and what will help your little one strive

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A feed baby is best don’t feel guilty about taking care of your mental health FIRST breastfeeding can be sooo hard & pumping is even harder. and if it’s messing with your mental then it’s okay , you at least tried … your being your own biggest enemy guilting yourself.

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My daughter was combination fed basically since birth. I exclusively pumped for several months because she just wouldn’t latch and would just scream. I was basically attached to the wall and then the sink washing pump parts all day and night. The day I decided to switch exclusively to formula I felt so much lighter, but I had that guilt as well. My daughter is 3 now and thriving! Try not to be so hard on yourself and do what’s best for your situation. Try to tune out the outside noise.

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If it’s starting to take a toll on your mental health and stress it’s okay to stop. 🫶🏽 A happy, loving, healthy, and attentive mother is way more valuable than breast milk especially with how good formula is now a days.
But you know when and if it’s time to stop. Just trust and listen to your natural instinct ❤️

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