So my husband has secretly booked another lads trip for a wild weekender full of pool parties in September. He was previously unfaithful at the same weekender a few years ago yet still takes no accountability.

I’ve told him I want to end the marriage as he has no respect for my boundaries. It is not an appropriate setting for a married man who clearly cannot resist temptation. Our baby is just weeks old. He’s great with the baby but now emotionally cold with me & says he agrees to end things. We’ve stopped speaking & I feel quite lonely & upset. This isn’t a query, just sharing this current difficulty I am experiencing post partum.

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How did you guys make boundaries between your little families and both yours and your partners families? My husband and I both have divorced families and holidays have always been extremely difficult/busy because of it. Now that our little one is here and coming up on her first “big holiday” Easter I’ve got families pulling us in both directions. It would be so much easier if my baby could engage in the holiday as she’s only 7weeks old😂 if she was older we could do and start our own traditions here at home but since she’s so little everyone expects us to come to them still. Background context my husband and I have been together total 4 years married 1 1/2 so this is still very new for us.

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Hey! Would love some advice.

I am almost 8 weeks postpartum, and had a tricky delivery, being in and out the hospital for the first 3 weeks (due retained placenta after my c section- hospital f-up, and issues with shortness of breath- which was investigated and anything serious was ruled out)

My husband has been back at work since week 4 and i have not left the house. I won’t leave unless he or someone is with me. Not even for a short walk. I have been out for appointments, but always with someone.

There isn’t much to do locally and it’s not a very nice area to go for a walk in.

I have friends with babies slightly older who want to meet up outside, but that would mean driving and finding a place i feel comfortable unloading baby from the car and having somewhere i can comfortably breastfeed.

I honestly don’t know if this is normal or if i should be pushing myself more.

Can you love being mum and at the same time cry because it’s difficult and you’re tired of it?

I’m trying to explain this to my husband but I don’t know how. I am crying all the time because It’s exhausting but I really love being my little ones mum. Can the two coexist or am I just an emotional mess?

I don’t know how to respond

i am going through a divorce and child custody battle and my ex texted me this after saying he doesn’t want our son to be with me for this summer. i don’t know how to respond to this

“Depending what is done between the time we have planned our sons birthday. You are more than welcome to come down here for it and me and my girlfriend have talked. If you come down you’re you can stay in his room with him so hotel fees won’t be needed. We will feed you. We’re doing this so you can be there for him”

So my husband has secretly booked another lads trip for a wild weekender full of pool parties in September. He was previously unfaithful at the same weekender a few years ago yet still takes no accountability.

Is this real?

My husband and my mother have had very little time to be on the up and up together so 10+ years by now definitely has takem its toll. Not just for them but me too. Being in the middle has such depleting care because im torn when they cant get along and i understand them both but im not a problem solver nor ate they kids....so i say that to tell the story. Im still in disbelief and my whole being is beyond rattled with the lack of breaks as a sahm during the day. If my mom had not reacted so strongly to this i could work around it but...
So we planned and took our first family trip together [8months pregnant me, hubby, mom, 2yodaughter] to Dragoncon in Georgia managed a deal with a new car[ultimately for my disabled mom but not approached that way] my name is on it as is hers. His is not. The trip is ok , fighting with my mom about car keys when she cant drive ever again has me stuck in a feels but she raises hell a few times over this. Hubby was at an airbnb with his friends i was at a cozy hotel with my mom and kid. Mom has history with men usually as proving to be like vermin around or to her so shes picked up a radar for my husband when he was 18[ im 30 and hes 30 now btw] because he had improper mannerisms for her household by not knocking approvingly.[didnt wait and walked in anyway to drop something off, i believe he didnt see her but she knew he came in and was mortified[she took a shower with the door opened but neither saw eachother. ....fast forward and more of this happens. Yes i heard how that sounds but look she comes to live with us 4 years ago and from then is whn it starts and shes keeping the light off using a night light or her phone and he doesnt knock because he sees no light[this is when its 2am] ive been in the bathroom with her and the lights on and he knocks , doesnt hear us speaking and ooens the door i stop him. This exact scenario can happen over and over and with w.e else looks like the right persona to match this behavior builds up and hes suddenly looked at now by her as a pedophile to our own children. She tells me months after seeing him pooping on a toilet while shes stands in front of him with the door open[no he didnt cover his parts for her because shes 2 yo and theres no physical contact. When he sees my mom coming in the house looking at him he closes the door then gets my daughter to walk out on her own[shes 3 now and still wont wear clothes much for her skin is sensitive to temperatures and she has bad eczema. Its eeird explaining all this but it is the story of my life im disbelief because i had to stop living with her when she told me THIS it was months before while i was pregnant and my uncle and sister also knew, no one else coming to me either] but i also had to stop living with her when i had an emergency c section for my 2nd and the next day when she comes to visit addresses first and only about how i call my mother in law mom.[i call them both mom] she threatens me about making a scene if i do it again in front of her. And i get home 5 days later she expects me to be moving around and handling new car errands ...then the whopper at that time was her threatening to report the car stolen because my husband left with it taking our daughter and his mom to an amusememt park she didnt want to go to and knew about, thinking i would go though...she has his number and did not want to talk to him or call him herself to express her concern. She never thought he respected her but he never thought she could hate him. Whether if hed help[and shes be uncomfy with proximity] or if he distanced more to avoid inducing stress he didnt get the medium that she could handle being around. Things could be calm then a conflict rises about some deep rooted other thing....im so tired exhauseted depressed and burntout from my own existence that what has been going on with them has never achieved some clarity. Am i supposed to believe my mom has a right to see my kids more now or that he would hurt our child like my dad did me [and even more so my older sister who wasnt his]?

So my husband has secretly booked another lads trip for a wild weekender full of pool parties in September. He was previously unfaithful at the same weekender a few years ago yet still takes no accountability.

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Can you love being mum and at the same time cry because it’s difficult and you’re tired of it?

I don’t know how to respond

So my husband has secretly booked another lads trip for a wild weekender full of pool parties in September. He was previously unfaithful at the same weekender a few years ago yet still takes no accountability.

Is this real?