Managing frustration

Hi everyone, I’m not sure exactly what I am trying to get out of this but lately I feel so frustrated with being SAHM. I don’t know if it’s because my MIL was her for 10 days and I had been planning my 1 year olds birthday party before that and now I am getting ready for my dad to come for a week. I love my baby so much but sometimes I feel drained to play with her, then I get in my head that I am a bad mom and I should be doing more. I try not to put the television on but it gets too quiet, so I put some music or a show. I have tried earphone but I think it makes overstimulated when I am focusing on baby girl and whatever audiobook I am listening to. It also doesn’t help that she is teething and has been waking up more in the middle of the night and short naps and just fussy in general. My partner helps but he has been taking care of getting the lawn and gardens ready for spring so it makes getting away for a couple hours on the weekend. Not to mention I also have guilt about it. Again I’m not sure what I wanted to get out of this. Maybe someone can help me work through or some advice? Maybe I am overstimulated? How do I work through it?

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Holidays and boundaries!

How did you guys make boundaries between your little families and both yours and your partners families? My husband and I both have divorced families and holidays have always been extremely difficult/busy because of it. Now that our little one is here and coming up on her first “big holiday” Easter I’ve got families pulling us in both directions. It would be so much easier if my baby could engage in the holiday as she’s only 7weeks old😂 if she was older we could do and start our own traditions here at home but since she’s so little everyone expects us to come to them still. Background context my husband and I have been together total 4 years married 1 1/2 so this is still very new for us.

Can you love being mum and at the same time cry because it’s difficult and you’re tired of it?

I’m trying to explain this to my husband but I don’t know how. I am crying all the time because It’s exhausting but I really love being my little ones mum. Can the two coexist or am I just an emotional mess?

I don’t know how to respond

i am going through a divorce and child custody battle and my ex texted me this after saying he doesn’t want our son to be with me for this summer. i don’t know how to respond to this

“Depending what is done between the time we have planned our sons birthday. You are more than welcome to come down here for it and me and my girlfriend have talked. If you come down you’re you can stay in his room with him so hotel fees won’t be needed. We will feed you. We’re doing this so you can be there for him”

So my husband has secretly booked another lads trip for a wild weekender full of pool parties in September. He was previously unfaithful at the same weekender a few years ago yet still takes no accountability.

I’ve told him I want to end the marriage as he has no respect for my boundaries. It is not an appropriate setting for a married man who clearly cannot resist temptation. Our baby is just weeks old. He’s great with the baby but now emotionally cold with me & says he agrees to end things. We’ve stopped speaking & I feel quite lonely & upset. This isn’t a query, just sharing this current difficulty I am experiencing post partum.

Due baby no2 any day but toddler won't stay overnight at grandparents 🥲

It's stressing me out a bit, because we are due our 2nd baby any day now.

Our son used to love staying at his grandparents house overnight when he was maybe about 1 - 1.5 years old. But then my FIL got quite unwell so he hasn't stayed overnight for about a year. Tonight we thought we'd do a little sleepover to see how he'd feel about it now he's nearly 3, knowing it's a bit different since he has more awareness that his dad and I aren't there etc.

He absolutely hated it.

We told them bedtime is 7pm, my MIL called us at 7:15pm and my son was just balling his eyes out saying he wanted to come home. It broke my heart.

We only live less than 5 mins round the road so we went over to see if we could calm him down but he just clung to me as soon as we walked through the door and begged to come home. I felt so guilty.

He absolutely adores his grandparents and loves being at their house, he's there 3 or 4 times a week usually, so part of me thought he'd really enjoy a sleepover but I know its a big ask at his age.

I'm now just really worried that I go into labour and he won't be happy staying there for a night or 2.

He had everything the same, we brought all his own bedding up, his light projector, his noise machine, everything was as much the same as we could've possibly made it.

If I had to go to the hospital during the night then my in-laws would just come round to our house and probably nap on the sofa until morning and then take him back to their house. But otherwise he'd likely have to go stay with them as we don't have a spare room for them to stay at our house.

We're really lucky to have them around to look after him, I'm just so stressed about it now and worried that I'll be worrying about him whilst giving birth! 🥲

Argh I think I just had to vent about it because I'm already feeling so much mum guilt about him not being an only child anymore and all the big changes that are happening, I just didn't think this would be such a big hurdle. I felt so guilty feeling the relief in his little body when I cuddled him in his own bed and he fell asleep instantly. I know it'll hopefully only be for 1 night during labour (after that his daddy could come home if need be), but I just feel so guilty and sad about it!

We said we'd maybe try again in a few days but I don't want him to start hating visiting his grandparents out of fear his dad and I are leaving him the whole night 😬😔

Managing frustration

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Holidays and boundaries!

Can you love being mum and at the same time cry because it’s difficult and you’re tired of it?

I don’t know how to respond

So my husband has secretly booked another lads trip for a wild weekender full of pool parties in September. He was previously unfaithful at the same weekender a few years ago yet still takes no accountability.

Due baby no2 any day but toddler won't stay overnight at grandparents 🥲

Managing frustration