Why do I find it so hard to talk to my husband about finances?

My baby is just over a year old and, for the first time ever, I’m not working as we decided that I’d be a SAHM for my baby. He makes decent money and can cover both of us, but we’ve recently done a big move and our finances need readjusting so that we can properly see where the money is going (bills, necessities, disposal income for each of us). We’re finding that we’re unable to save at the end of each month but can’t quite work out if we’re losing money yet, so I’m really keen to get this setup sorted so we can properly see the cash flow. It was something I used to manage before the big move. My husband has no problem with me managing the finances.

The problem is that he always makes a joke about me spending too much money, like saying there’s always Amazon packages turning up. It particularly hard for me right now because I’m not earning so I am genuinely trying hard not to spend money frivolously. I do get a lot of Amazon packages, but it’s always necessities and/or things for the baby, and he gets just as many packages as I do, but it’s usually just stuff for him.

The jokes aren’t landing with me anymore because I’m sensitive about not contributing financially to the household. He never makes that a big deal, but when I get serious about trying to get a handle on where our money is going, he jokes that I spend it all and I hate it

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I can’t apologize

Anytime my husband is angry at me , he uses words like fool, stupid, I regret marrying u etc . Even when I’m wrong I can’t apologize cos I get hurt and he in turn gets mad that I don’t take accountability. For context 90% of our Arguments is about the house being tidy.

Am I being petty

I swear I've woken up on the wrong side of the bed which doesn't help this scenario.
But am I being petty for being severely pissed off at my partner.
He puts the bottles on the steriliser. Didn't fill up or put the kettle on. Didn't fill the power pots ready.
Asked him to shut the blinds in my eldest room as you could see right in. Come back from shop they were still open.
Hasn't loaded in dishwasher in over a week.

I literally been feeling like a single mother these days. Like I know he is working more than usual but cumon he was already half prepping the bottles.

TWO YEAR OLD SETTLED INTO NURSERY ALMOST INSTANTLY

My two year old has just started nursery and she didint give a damn, starting yesterday she’s been doing her settling in week.
Today she damn near closed the door on me and the teacher was Happy to tell me she didn’t ask for mummy nothing…
😂😂 don’t know how I feel about that.
Glad she’s settled in but damn

Coincidence or Retaliation? My MIL Is the CEO and I Just Got Demoted

My MIL is a bitch😂 sorry, just had to start off with that. Okay, now that I got that out 😂 let me give y’all the backstory because I genuinely need to know if I’m being dramatic or if this is as fucked up as it feels.

My MIL is the CEO of the company I work for. My husband also works there, he’s a Coordinator, and I was working as an Administrative Assistant/Peer Support Specialist. My husband and his mom have not been on speaking terms since July. I’m not going to dump the entire family tree on y’all 😂. Just know things between them have been BAD. We were also supposed to go to Thailand with her, but because of the issues between her and my husband, that trip basically got taken away from us. She went without us and came back literally ONE DAY before our gender reveal. She was not invited.

Now, before anybody says, “Well, that’s her son’s mom, how could you not invite her?” there is a LOT more to that situation, and at this point, my husband and I decided we were not going to pretend everything was fine just because it was a family event. We did invite some of our coworkers, though. Fast forward to Tuesday. I get called in and told that I’m being demoted. The reason I was given?

Budget cuts.

Okay… sucks, but whatever. I’m trying to be an adult about it. I’m pregnant, I have bills, and obviously getting demoted is stressful, but if the company is cutting the budget, then I can at least understand that it’s a business decision.

Except…

My husband and like 7 other ppl at the company got promoted the same week!! And then I was supposed to work until Friday in the office, but she sends another coworker of mine to tell me that she wants me gone the same day so my co worker can move in my space. How unprofessional!! Eventually my husband talked to his mom, and suddenly there were apparently MULTIPLE reasons for my demotion that had nothing to do with budget cuts. She allegedly told him that I had said I couldn’t lift certain items because I’m pregnant. NEVER SAID THAT! She brought up paperwork that supposedly wasn’t turned in. NEVER DID THAT! And then there was a customer complaint over the phone. BUT WAS CONFIRMED TO NOT BE ME! It was another employee.

Honestly, the part that bothers me the most isn’t even the demotion itself. It’s the possibility that something personal happening between my husband and his mother could have crossed over into my job. Because if you don’t like your son right now, that’s between y’all. If you’re mad that your son’s wife didn’t invite you to her gender reveal, okay. But my paycheck??? LEAVE MY PAYCHECK OUT OF IT. 😂

Is my boyfriend too traditional or selfish?

He says he gives 8 hours of his life to his job M-F and he’s tired of coming home to do things he doesn’t want to/be inconvenienced. He’s talking about watching our son while I go to the food pantry. I can’t take our son because it’s a lot for me as I’m 8 months pregnant. My son is 10 months pregnant.

He was raised in a traditional home where his mom would do everything for him and his dad would work. He never did the dishes, cooked, or did his own laundry. I know he expects the same from me. I am trying my best to give him that since I’m a SAHM but i’m not used to doing that. In my eyes we should be 50/50 or he could help out a little more.

We also have two pets that he barely takes care of. I’m stuck cleaning our cat’s litter box (even though i shouldn’t while pregnant) or else it won’t get done.

Weaning- start with sweet or savoury?

Just want different views! I understand the idea of starting with veg is because babies have a natural preference for sweet so it can be beneficial starting with veg as they don’t know any different. However, I can imagine that mums start their babies on something sweet like banana or sweet potato or even creamy like baby porridge as it’s things they will likely enjoy and therefore they would start on a positive note and associate food time with positive experience. So I can imagine starting with sweet can also be beneficial so that they actually learn to enjoy eating whereas starting with veg I feel they eat less and pull the funny faces. So I’m torn between the 2 and just wanted to know different mums views on this. Also, I’m planning to start on veg but then at what point do I introduce breakfast? I would like to offer porridge for example but only going to start with one meal a day so how am I supposed to offer veg and breakfast if that makes sense? Literally just starting as baby is 6 months and trying to think of a plan xx