im hurting sm and i can sometimes be too in my head, idk
So today, my boyfriend watched my baby for almost three hours while I got my lashes done. I never did something like that and im 5m pp, so it was a big deal, but I appreciated it so much. Then he worked all day, like, from 3 to maybe 8. And when he came in the room, I said let's cuddle tonight (he’s been so distant and admitted it and knows its hurting me, so i straight up said it in a fun way to initiate even tho i’d want him to) and he's just always really high, but he said okay. First we ate dinner, and he hardly touched or kissed me or anything. He didnt really compliment my lashes either besides making a comment on how much they were.
And then we were upstairs, and I said I wanted to cuddle, in a playful way, and I sat on him, and he pulled me off of him and was, saying to lay next to him and not on top of him, but, like, I don't know, like, I felt kind of rejected and then I said that, and then nothing changed. he doesnt touch my butt or anything much anymore. And then our baby fell asleep in his arms, and I told him to put her in the bassinet, and he said no, because she'll wake up. And so he fell asleep cuddling her, and now I'm downstairs alone, and I just feels like, our connection is gone on his end and not mine. like i wasnt even dropping hints or testing him i was initiating closeness for him to brush it off.
It's all weird now and he gets really high too, but, he used to be hands all over me and I even said it to him today, I miss that, and then he like awkwardly put his hands on me. Like, I miss the guy who loved me, and I wanna say all this. But it pushes him away more please thoughts
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Aww I understand I’m sorry
…He’s seeing someone else, I’m sorry but after studying male psychology for three years now it’s very simple with men. If you feel like they don’t like you, then they don’t like you and it’s very obvious that they don’t.
It can be he is on this postpartum ride too. He’s still trying to figure out how to balance you, a baby, work and he has to take care of you two. It’s a lot on him sounds like maybe you guys should have a long talk or some counseling just to find ways to reconnect and how to balance everything right now
I hope he's not getting high and sleeping whilst holding the baby??
5m post partum is not long. People say not to make big decisions about your relationship during the first year because baby can have a huge impact (obviously that's not including abuse/cheating in any form). I think you're both allowed time to adjust and having a baby is really exhausting. I wouldn't just give up and assume he doesn't want you. Could the increased use of drugs be causing a loss in libido? I do think you deserve closeness and there's nothing wrong with wanting that and discussing it. If he continues to not make any effort or changes then yes I would think there's a problem there. But I'd personally give it some more time and try to communicate about it.
He shouldn’t be getting high then looking after the baby never mind REALLY high and then sleeping holding the baby too . I’d make sure the baby is going in the crib because that’s insanely dangerous
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