Libido since birth

Anyone else suddenly have a low libido!? I had a really high appetite for sex before having a baby, even during pregnancy. And suddenly recently I really cannot be bothered. I feel distracted, not in the mood, tired, unsexy, lazy to have sex. And it’s really strange to me as I’ve always been the one initiating and really high sex drive! :(

4 months PP, exclusively breast feeding.

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Exactly the Same , and my partner hasn’t brought it up, not sure whether to be concerned about that or grateful

Yep, I always had the higher sex drive before pregnancy but then it completely disappeared during pregnancy as I was really poorly and as soon as I had given birth it returned I was ready to go a couple days after birth but my partner wanted to wait a bit so we made it to 5 weeks PP🤣 but I’d say within the last almost 2 months (girlie almost 4 month old) it’s just disappeared again, like Samantha’s comment above too my partner doesn’t make any moves or anything either. The couple times I’ve mentioned it, it doesn’t end up happening then both me and baby are asleep by the time he comes up to bed!

I am the same, it’s because your hormones are still not back to normal. We will get back there

Same here. Exclusively BF and we also have a 3 year old, I am exhausted. And my husband has mentioned it a few times 🙄 explained it's normal and respect the postpartum but I still don't think he gets it

in our community

So…….

So question
Do yall think 🤔 that texting other men/women online is consider cheating? Or do you think cheating is just physical and texting?

Baby abroad with dad

I need genuine advice whether I’m being crazy.

BD wants to take our baby who will be 12 months at the time abroad to meet his family in Georgia. He currently has her every Sunday, she’s not even been round there overnight yet. This is due to drug charges and other reasons I won’t get into.

We don’t have a court order it is informal arrangent. I have done everything myself for the past 9 months, from sleepless nights, breastfeeding to weaning. I am the primary caregiver.

I am so filled with anxiety at the thought of her being without me for a week let alone abroad?! He’s kicked off and said I’m being unreasonable and it’s not fair.

Is this normal or what? Asking me for reasons why I’m not ok with that?

Am i a shitty mom

My son is about to be 9 months, and we currently live with his dad in a duplex. He doesnt work. If he does he works maybe 3 days and finds an excuse to quit. He says its not worth his time for what they pay. I work sunday through friday 5 am to 1:30 and i cant make ends meet. When i was on maternity leave he let bills rack up crazy and i had to use my whole retun to pay off the bills. And now ik the asshole because we obly jave about 200 dollars till i get paid again on the 18th. This is what he had to say when i complained that we wouldnt have had to use all of my return of he wouldve ketp a job that was perfect for our schedule and for our commute. He quit the job because they obly paid him 18/hr and he wasnt gonna do the job pf a machine for soemone who smokes a vape( he hates people who vape and his manager was doing so). Am i a shitty mom if i take my son away from his dad and run to harbor house? I just cant keep with financial abuse. I try everything to keep us above water and he just spits in my face about it.

be careful who’s on here

This is supposed to be a space for moms and children. I just came across a profile named “Rebecca” that openly said they’re on here because they feel lonely and want to talk to mom . That does not sit right with me at all.
It was a man with a half ass wig and beard. We do NOT know people’s intentions on here, and there are kids involved. This is not a random social app — it’s meant for mothers and a safe environment.

Am I the only one..?

Am I the only one that, sometimes, stop myself from saying something because if the other person has a different skin colour than me I fear they might take criticism as racism?

What am I doing wrong in these convos

It hurts because I can’t even have a normal convo with this guy. Everything turns into me being the bad guy and I’m literally doing everything alone. I just want to feel okay.