Nanny question

No she should have asked. It’s like me using someone’s coat while I walk their dog..

That’s not acceptable at all, it’s someone else’s belongings. I’d have a word for sure. Set a boundary, otherwise what’s next?

It's definitely not ideal and definitely weird that she didn't at least ask first. However, if she's otherwise been a good nanny I wouldn't sever the relationship for this. I would set a boundary and move on.

Yeah nah that’s not acceptable I’d say something to her and put soak the hat in detergent give it a lil brush off and rinse and dry it in the sun but I’d def say something coz you can’t just go around wearing peoples hats 😵‍💫

I reckon a simple chat she probs just wanted to be warm and forgot hers! If it was for a reason (warmth / sun) thats fine but if just for fashion, weird! Either way asking wouldve been ideal if they couldve

If someone is lovingly taking care of my child, they can borrow my kidney for all I care. I'm very confused about this perspective 😩 can the hat not be cleaned?

You’re not wrong to feel how you feel but it’s a bit over the top in my opinion. It’s a hat, used to keep warm. It’s pretty understandable on the nanny’s side.

Would an easy solution be to get some outdoor gear for your nanny to keep at your home so if she needs it she has everything. I assume both the hat and coat happened because of weather changes she wasn’t prepared for.

I agree with you that is weird and I would be freaked out. A hat is a really personal item I think. 🤔 she should have asked, it’s impolite.