Chronically negative friend

What do you do if you have a friend who never has anything positive to say about anything ever? I know its awful, but i feel drained. I understand they need help with depression but they have refused help for years now.
Making conversation is very difficult, and then no matter what the subject, they only something negative to say.
No matter what is happening, they always have things 10x worse than anyone else has ever had it.
Please help!

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Breastfeeding popularity

Absolutely zero judgement here, but I’m curious how many people actually breastfeed? I exclusively breastfed my first for a year and currently 9.5 months in with my second. Out of the 11 babies in my friend group my 2 are the only ones breastfed past 3 months.

Am I too secretive?

So hear me out, I found out I was 6 weeks pregnant 2 weeks ago. My husband excited, I was excited. Now we lost a baby in the past. 1 stillbirth and 1 miscarriage. So I feel like I don’t want to share with any family or outsiders that I’m pregnant because of all the negativity and I want to feel more secure in my pregnancy before I discuss anything. We also have been having issues in our marriage with him being in an emotionally enmeshed relationship with his mother and having stability issues. So we been working on trying to attain this house and a new car and have a better grip on our finances. My husband and I discussed keeping the pregnancy, the house and the car between us until things manifest. I’m big on letting life build and manifest before we go telling people. His mother and me are also not cool. She hasn’t been a fan of me from the very beginning of our relationship. Again she wants him as her 2nd husband, (if you understand emotional enmeshing and triangulation, this has been her relationship with my husband) she also thinks she is this big prophetess woman who has dreams and God tells her everything. She has been avoidant towards me and has been hoping our relationship ends. We have a five year old daughter together and a 19 month old son. So why would she want the relationship to end is beyond me, except so that she can pretend she had a dream about it and that she predicted this to his family. ANYWAY fast forward I started having cramps last week and have been bleeding for 8 days. More than likely I had a miscarriage or chemical pregnancy because I know the baby haven’t had a heartbeat yet (my doctors appointment is next week) Now again we agreed to keep this all private until things manifest. So his mom going through her own divorce and issues and she been blowing up my husband phone for days. Now when he talks to his mom he gets so wrapped in her world and her emotions and then thinks she is so wise, so he said to me he was going to learn how to be more responsible and grow as a man. Of course he gets tied into her web again, talks to her, gets to drinking and tells her all of our plans about the house, the car, the pregnancy , our conversations about divorce, all our marital issues! And his mom loves to gossip and laugh at our situation. I found out he told her all this because he was talking to her on the phone today on speaker phone and he like “man we better get this house and the car and blah blah”, and then she was like “now what about the baby?” And he hurried up and took her off of speaker. So when I wanted to talk to him about how I feel like he violated our agreement we had about his relationship with his mother, about our private life until it manifests , about the pregnancy and everything. He said he was like “I don’t be knowing what to talk about with them and f**k it I told everything and that you’re too secretive.” ‼️Now, I don’t feel like I’m secretive, I feel like a husband and wife should live life of their own, have their own private life and share what they want to share when they both agree to. So I feel like he violated our trust and keeps continuing to bring his mother and family into our relationship without my consent, and she is already hoping our marriage ends because hers is ending. Am I being secretive or does husband and wife really keep things between each other and he just violated our trust?

Should I let my mom see my son?

My mom is toxic. Shes verbally abusive and disrespectful. Shes a narcissist. I hated her during my pregnancy. She was disgusted with me for getting pregnant.
Now my sons almost 3 and she adores him. She even made her office into his room. Toys, learning tools a bed.
But we had a nasty disagreement this past weekend like usual. But this time SHE feels disrespected by my partner. Which to me he didnt say anything disrespectful at all. She told me to find another baby sitter. She was our only baby sitter. So when I needed a break she was there. Now I lost it. Soon enough I know shes going to Crack and want to see her grandson. I choose not to talk to her and go to her for validation and support anymore. To me. If she doesbt like me she doesnt like her grandson evntho shes thanked me for making her a grandmother. I dont think shes mad at her grandson at all I think shes solely upset with me and my partner. But I dont care. The bitch can attack me but once its done to her she clams up and get sad about getting the same medicine she gives out. Ugh what would you do?

Nappys

Which nappy brands are your faves and why?
Do you find sizes vary between different brands?
For example the pampers size 1s we always get leakage of poo and wee but are fine with size 1s in the sainsburies and aldis own brand ones. Would've expected pampers to be better quality but maybe a size issue

Spit up

I’m at a lost right now I’ve been to doctor after doctor they tell me it’s normal because it’s not projectile or they start her on rice but nothing seems to be helping my 3 month old is still excessively spitting up/ throwing up I’ve tried EVERYTHING sensitive stomach formula, burping in between and giving her breaks sitting her up after but it’s all day and starting to get exhausting and I know she’s gotta be getting uncomfortable with it to because she’s constantly covered in it or it’s soaking her clothes she’s getting sick of me changing and wiping her up ! Any advice or reassurance ??

Ready made formula & powder -Kendamil

Please help- our 6 day old gets on so well with ready made formula but we’re trying to switch to powdered (due to cost and midwife telling us to do so).

We’ve slowly introduced the first bottle of the day as powdered and with infacol before but then struggles for the rest of the day getting wind up and is now really fussy☹️

Anyone have any tips or dealt with this?