newborn trenches

need some light at the end of the tunnel! when did your little ones start sleeping longer stretches or through the night? currently up every 2 hours 😩😩

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Would also like to know 😭 we start to get a routine and some good nights then its straight back to 45min/1.5 hours
Our baby girl is 2 weeks

Im 5 weeks in... would love to know as well

About 10 weeks old!

Only until the last week so 14-15 weeks!

It was between 11-14 weeks for use but prior to this we had some random longer stretches here and there. It is so so tough but youve got this! My little boy doesn't sleep through the night but only wakes for 1 feed and gives us 6-7h stretches now, it'll come in time - hang in there! ❤️

Our girl is coming on 9 weeks, we've been getting a good first stretch of 6hrs sleep for the last week or so, but we only get that 6hrs if we're also willing to go to sleep at 830/9pm. Then we get stretches of 2-3 hours until it's time to get up.

@Gigi i know won't feel like it but 1.5hrs for a newborn is ok, remember their tummies are tiny, the size of a marble at that stage and empties juat as quick as they fill it x

My 2 month baby started doing 5hr stretches. Did 6hrs once.
I found a bath before bed and him im a babygrow and sleeping bag helped with the long sleep. We also use extra slow tommee tippee tests to tire him out.
We do a bottle about 0745 /8pm and then let him fall into a deep sleep on us before going into the cot.

13 week does a 3 hour stretch now when first goes down

My baby just turned 4 weeks sleeps through the night ( the last two nights) but barely sleeps in the day and fussy by the afternoon but refuses to nap, I guess I’m lucky to sleep at night but hard not having time to make food or anything during the day

We need to stop normalising the expectation that babies should be sleeping through the night or even long stretches. 2 to 3 hour wake ups are completely normal. Nothing is wrong with baby. You don't need to fix anything. You are doing amazing. Just be there for them when they wake. Feed them. Change them. Cuddle them and get them back to sleep. My 20 month old still wakes 3 or 4 times a night. It's ok. I know it feels tough right now because it's all new but I hope you find peace in knowing it's expected and try to lean into it.

At about 6 weeks. Many people say it’s once they are 4.5 to 5kg, they have less calorific reasons to wake up at night

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Co sleeping

Maybe I’m being dumb but I don’t understand the concept of co sleeping for those of you who do it when baby doesn’t stay down in their cot. Am I missing the point or is there no difference in the two? I put my baby down in the bed the same way I put her in her cot. Am I doing it wrong? She wakes up and cries and doesn’t want to stay down. She wants to be held. I’ve tried to hold her, lie down and the roll over so she still thinks I’m holding her, but there’s too much movement and she wakes up regardless of co sleeping. Do other mums hold their babies or cuddle them when co sleeping? From the lullaby trust I can see that the baby is not being held in any way, so I can’t understand how I’m supposed to sleep if my baby doesn’t want to be put down even when co sleeping..

Mantras getting me through month 4 with my previously amazing sleeper 🥹

As most of us are currently going through it with sleep, i thought I’d share the things I’m telling myself at 4 in the morning when she is frantically thrashing around trying to connect her sleep cycles.

“Despite what people call it, this is not a regression. She is not going backwards, she is learning something new.”

“She is a baby doing baby things - sometimes they don’t make sense”

“Her brain is going through a massive change. Regardless of how tired I am, she is building something that will stay with her for life.”

“I can only help give her the foundations to get through this, this is something she will learn for herself, in her own time.“

“I am lucky that get to be here to watch her learn this new skill.”

“I will sleep again.” (Probably the most important one)

I know I’m finding this period tough, because before now we had a baby who only woke once during the night. These are nice reminders I repeat to myself when I’m tired (and awake at 3:45). I hope they might be useful to someone else in the same position.

Not sleeping in crib/ bed

I’ve got a 4 week year old and since birth, they don’t like sleeping in their own next to me crib or even on my bed and if so, it can sometimes last a few minutes when I put them down 😭

Baby only sleeps if on me or their dad. Any tips to get baby to sleep on crib/ bed without waking up after 5 minutes 😭