Are you ladies bothered by your man having many female friends that are apparently as neutral as their male friends?

He’s had most of these female friends long before I met him so it’s not that I want him to discontinue their friendship, I just wish he wouldn’t text them often and such. I don’t believe he hangs out with them or at least not like one on one.. should I just chill and not be insecure? Side note, I did see only one conversation where they were not romantic per se but flirtatious..

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If there’s any flirting in the slightest that’s an inappropriate relationship to have while in a relationship to me 🤷🏻‍♀️

It’s not the friendship with women part that’s an issue, it’s when they don’t set boundaries within those friendships. Texting another woman who is “just a friend” excessively, especially in a flirtatious way is completely inappropriate.

I don't mind him talking to women because I trust him. It's mostly just couple friends tho. If he was texting one excessively that would make me uncomfortable, and flirting is just ✨Cheating Lite✨ lol

I used to not care, but let’s be real… if the opposite sex is friends w your man, it can easily turn into something.
My husband had a friend in his teens that he said was “like a sister to him”, and many many years later when we were on a couple month split, he fucked her. So watch out for those “female friends”. Like I said we were split up during that time but obv there were feelings on one or both sides.

My husband mainly has female friends. Not bothered in the slightest.

My husband has quite a few female friends (his best friend is also a woman and she was his "best woman" in our wedding), just as I have quite a few male friends. Honestly I see it more as a red flag if men DON'T have female friends ....it gives "I see women only as sexual objects" vibes.
Not bothered at all, I'm very secure in our relationship. That being said, there's absolutely nothing "flirty" about their interaction- that would absolutely cross a boundary.

Having a men that consider women as potential friends and not someone he wants to have sex with is actually a green flag to me (unless it's underlying flirting). My husband has female friend and I have male friends. We are not animals and love spending time with other gender without making it flirty, sexual or cheating.

I’m not bothered with my man but we’d have a talk if I saw a flirty convo that he didn’t shut down bc joke or not that’s disrespectful to the relationship

My husband had a few female friends from high school. We have talked about boundaries and I’m fine with him being friends! They are not super close anymore. But they text some and occasionally hang out.

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Baby abroad with dad

I need genuine advice whether I’m being crazy.

BD wants to take our baby who will be 12 months at the time abroad to meet his family in Georgia. He currently has her every Sunday, she’s not even been round there overnight yet. This is due to drug charges and other reasons I won’t get into.

We don’t have a court order it is informal arrangent. I have done everything myself for the past 9 months, from sleepless nights, breastfeeding to weaning. I am the primary caregiver.

I am so filled with anxiety at the thought of her being without me for a week let alone abroad?! He’s kicked off and said I’m being unreasonable and it’s not fair.

Is this normal or what? Asking me for reasons why I’m not ok with that?

So…….

So question
Do yall think 🤔 that texting other men/women online is consider cheating? Or do you think cheating is just physical and texting?

Am I the only one..?

Am I the only one that, sometimes, stop myself from saying something because if the other person has a different skin colour than me I fear they might take criticism as racism?

Am i a shitty mom

My son is about to be 9 months, and we currently live with his dad in a duplex. He doesnt work. If he does he works maybe 3 days and finds an excuse to quit. He says its not worth his time for what they pay. I work sunday through friday 5 am to 1:30 and i cant make ends meet. When i was on maternity leave he let bills rack up crazy and i had to use my whole retun to pay off the bills. And now ik the asshole because we obly jave about 200 dollars till i get paid again on the 18th. This is what he had to say when i complained that we wouldnt have had to use all of my return of he wouldve ketp a job that was perfect for our schedule and for our commute. He quit the job because they obly paid him 18/hr and he wasnt gonna do the job pf a machine for soemone who smokes a vape( he hates people who vape and his manager was doing so). Am i a shitty mom if i take my son away from his dad and run to harbor house? I just cant keep with financial abuse. I try everything to keep us above water and he just spits in my face about it.

Does anyone else ever feel like the “disposable” friend?

Like you show up, you care deeply, you try to be there for people… but the moment you can’t give 100%, it’s like your value drops. Like you’re only needed when you’re strong, available, and pouring into everyone else. I’m the kind of person who responds quickly and will continuously be there. I just feel like it’s not reciprocated…

I guess I’m just wondering… how do you know the difference between outgrowing a friendship and just going through a rough spot?

Would love to hear from anyone who’s felt this way 🖤

Am I wrong

Sometimes I wanna tell my fiance to go eat out someone else since I'm tired or go have intercourse with someone else wrong for that🤔