Give advice wisely

AMEN!!!! there are so many things that can be fixed with a single conversation. leaving isn’t the overall solution to every problem.

Agreed! I had that happen to me when I first got married and 15 years later the same person said why didn’t you call me. I said do you remember the advice you gave me the first time. No thank you!

For some they would leave , so thats what they suggest. The other reason is we are only getting the one side and the husbands seem like horrible partners so unless the OPs give more well rounded descriptions of their partners (what they do well) then it makes sense to say leave that terrible man. Lastly physical avuse isnt the only type of abuse. Alot of times women describe financial abuse, emotional/mental abuse and general lack of effort from their husbands/partners which also ground to leave in my opinion. Cant ask for opinions and then get mad when they are offered. Go to therapy before coming to the internet lol

I would’ve said leave because unfortunately some people just don’t change. If a man was to treat me or my child like the way they treat some women in this group, I wouldn’t want to try and rekindle the relationship at all. He doesn’t deserve my effort if he’s not going to reciprocate it. If a man was to treat me so terribly and I just stayed then he’s going to think it’s okay and just carry on the way he is.
These women, if they don’t leave and nothing changes, will be unhappy and affect their children’s wellbeing. That’s not fair. I’d rather my husband and I divorce if we weren’t happy together and see our daughter happy than be together and her see lots of disagreements, fights, arguments, pettiness.
That’s why we advise leave. Women know they can do counselling but they’re most likely with the guy that says ‘we don’t need it’. Or like the comment above says, go to counselling first and then come to us. Don’t ask if you don’t want opinion.

But also, no offence if these women are going to take advice from total strangers on a app then more fool them …

I can speak from personal experience sometimes it’s better to leave then try to rekindle especially with kids involved