Am I in the wrong or my husband?
I want to start by saying that last year my baby was only about 4 months old, and we didn’t even go to my parents’ house for Easter. We went to his family’s celebration and then went straight home.
This year, it’s turned into a big argument. He wants to go to his family’s church—which I’ve never been to, and he hasn’t even gone to in the four years we’ve been together. I want to go to church with my sister and her husband, grab lunch with them afterward, go home so our toddler can take her nap, and then go to his family’s Easter, followed by my family’s.
He’s completely against that plan. He wants to either skip our toddler’s nap so we can be “on time” for his family’s Easter, or make me choose between going to church with my sister or going out to eat after—I can’t do both.
His family’s Easter is from 11–1, which is exactly during our toddler’s nap time. They’ve even been understanding and offered to do another egg hunt after her nap or whenever we arrive. But he’s still not willing to compromise.
Instead, he wants to go to his family’s church, skip going out to eat, put our toddler down an hour later than usual—or skip her nap entirely—and then go to his family’s Easter.
I feel like I’m the one trying to compromise so we can spend time with both sides of the family this year, especially mine.
Am I wrong here, or is he being unreasonable?
Just needa vent
Pre kids my husband cheated on me emotionally with multiple women, drugs and alcohol were a large contributor to his bad decisions, he’s been clean for several years. Deep down I always felt like I was never good enough for him, now more so after having two kids, I feel really ugly and not confident at all. He’s alway been into girls who wore makeup, dressed girly all the time, wore perfume, use hair products, etc.
I have never been that way since he met me, so he always brings up jokingly if I’m a tomboy, and how he’d like me to be more “girly” but that’s never been me I don’t understand why he’d want me to change who I am. I put effort when we go out to eat and such but at home I’m not getting dolled up that does not come natural to me at all. So idk what to do or think, like is he not happy with who I am? Why’d he beg me to stay with him after cheating on me if I’m not his “ideal” woman. Idk. Should I leave him and let him find love elsewhere?? I feel like I’m not good enough for him.
