Will it get better? Nursery worries

Hi!
My LO started nursery last week and went in for two days, after a couple of settling in sessions. The first day was more or less okay, but on the second day he had a cold and really struggled to settle. He hasn’t been back since as we’re on Easter break, and he’ll return on Tuesday.

I’m feeling quite anxious about whether he’ll adapt to nursery. I go back to work next week and I’m worried about getting calls saying he’s not okay.

If anyone has been through something similar and it got better, I’d really love to hear your experience or any words of encouragement 🤍

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Trust me it'll get better. My first baby was like this but after a few weeks of consistency she was fine. She's been there since 10 months and leaves for school this year xx

Mine hated it at first - settling sessions were just tears and leaving him was awful. Two months later he loves it! I know it sounds like a long time but honestly it flies. He happily goes in on a morning now and we’ve only had to pick him up early once (he’s a very ‘clingy’ baby so this was a huge surprise for us, and it was because of a temperature rather than not being able to settle). It’s all just new routine, once they’ve caught on it’ll click into place x

It took my daughter around 3 months to not cry at nursery, it was horrendous but the main reason i sent her was because she was so attached to just me and was so incredibly shy and had very little experience with other kids her age. After about a month she would still cry at drop off and pick up but i'd get photos of her just fine half an hour after all settled in and eating her breakfast/playing etc.
It's a massive change and can take time but it really depends on your little one, my girl has been there coming up two years now and she loves it and all her friends! And her confidence is incredible now she's a totally different kid x

Give it about 6 weeks

i felt so awful when we started in march, she was very attached to me, breastfed and didn’t take bottles or dummys, it was hard for her, she wouldn’t eat or drink it was so hard to leave her but today was the first day she didn’t cry at drop off and she’s starting to eat and drink whilst she’s there! it’s taken 5 weeks but it’s gotten much easier, it’s honestly so intense at first, but believe everyone when they say it gets easier, they always settle after you leave x

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