Mother in law

That sounds waaayyy beyond normal. I’d go no contact in a heartbeat if mine was ever that controlling.

You talk to her and be firm and stand your ground.
I had issues with my mil at the beginning and in the end I invited her over and told her straight my baby my rules and what I say goes, it was a talk that went on a few hours, sge even started crying at one point bevause I said no kissing my babys mouth, she played victim but I was having none of it and our relationship definitely got better in a sense she realized she couldnt bully me into what she wanted!

Nope love mine to bits! Never understand how women can dismiss the MILaws so much! They are the best and have been the most important thing in your husbands lives for a longggg time! I’d never disrespect that and she would never disrespect me!

Yepp, MIL is similar. I went no contact with her for 6 years after she ruined my wedding. Then because of my husband i started speak again. The first meeting she was nice. The second she went back to herself taking out the baby out of my hand. Then at summer we said baby stay with me only because he's tired of the constant nee faces on holiday. She was moaning all 3 days while we were there that she wants to hold and touch (??) the baby. One point she said to hubby that baby can take more and we just over protecting him. He kept sleeping in crying because he was that tired.

I tell her if i find something bad or uncomfortable. I dont wait hubby.

my mother in law was little similar. she kept wanting to feed my daughter more then 3 ounces at a time. which was something we couldn't or she would throw it up. I found out she would do it and when I come get her from the week she would watch her she would throw it up. I would get so mad. at the age of just turning two she would get mad it my daughter uses a bottle when she is at her how she's not allowed a bottle. she's upset not that when she goes to bed I allow her to take a bottle of water to bed so it does spill in the middle of the night she wakes up needing a drink.

Mine was great until baby came....she had said she would help watch him while I worked and I work from home, but I wanted him to be watched at my home so I was close by. All of a sudden she has all these issues with it. She said he back hurts too much BUT if fine if I want to take him to her and she can watch him at her house. I told her flat-out in front of my husband, how does your back hurt at my house and not at yours? She had no answer. She makes comments like if you want to have another I'll just keep this one and it really rubs me the wrong way. So I hired someone to watch him and I don't take him to see her just my parents. I told my husband when he is not working we can take him to go see her but I will not go out of my way to go alone. She started video chatting my husband making comments like "I don't get to see my baby anymore" and " Oh is he talking yet?" I try to just ignore them but sometimes my husband doesn't help. Stick to your guns on this its YOUR baby not hers.