Is it just me?

I'm really struggling too! It is not easy. The sling helps me loads but I had a c section and finding my lower back gets sore as it's compensating for my abs so I can't even carry him in the sling we much as I need.

My toddler is in pre-school three days a week but the two days I'm solo with both kids is insane. I feel like I can't manage anything and constantly letting them both down.

I feel so bad for my toddler and miss spending 1:1 time with him.

Newborn hates being put down too. It's so challenging.

Its far far harder than I expected! My eldest is 3 at Christmas and started nursery last month as well so a new routine with drop offs etc and potty regression… I thought the transition from 1-2 would be a lot easier than 0-1. Its easier in some ways as we already know how to change nappies etc but having to constantly tag team and divide and conquer is so hard. Theres no time to rest and catch up on sleep while chasing around another child. The sleep deprivation is proving impossible!!

We are 4 weeks in with a newborn and very strong willed 2 and a half year old who now refuses to use the toilet and gone back to nappies. Finding it so hard too. We are surviving not thriving in this household.

It’s 11:15 and we’re still in our pjs. House is a mess had about 2 hours sleep. You’re not alone xxxx

I can completely relate. It’s such a struggle. My little one is in nursery 5 days a week and I used to love our weekends together and now I’m dreading them as they are so intense. I have terrible mum guilt for not proving her the attention she deserves and really try to give her 1:1 as much as possible which can often prove impossible! I’m very much looking forward to the next few weeks when we are beginning to establish more of a routine as it’s just all over the place at the minute. Getting through the day is hard but it does get easier but we are definitely in the thick of it

I’m in the same boat. I have a nearly three year old who’s devestated by his new brother. It’s got better but he wants to squeeze baby and the tantrums are wild. I took him to the supermarket - just him and me - yesterday and he was delightful. He needs one on one time with the both of us so we’re facilitating that now. During the day, he becomes my helper: need a nappy? Big brother can get it. Put something in the bin? He’s happy to help. One thing I’m glad I didn’t do was potty train prior to baby arriving as that would’ve been such a waste of time for us.

Yes I’m struggling too and that’s with my husband on Pat leave and my 3.5 yr old in nursery 3 days a week 🫠🫠

I’m coping so well with baby but as soon as they are both together I feel like Mama Bear and everything my toddler does is loud/ annoying/ dangerous etc. Obviously my husband is prioritising giving her one on one time but the more that happens the more she wants me! I do her bedtime each night whilst my husband stays with baby and that’s helped me remember she is cute and lovely and still so little with her own wild feelings, but overall it’s been a real struggle.

I think everyone does struggle going from 1 to 2 but it’s what you don’t see. All of my mum friends say you either temporarily dislike your toddler or you feel intense mum guilt - or a wonderful mix of both!! Just keep having some one on one time with the older one and hopefully things adjust to a place that’s more manageable xx