Am I crazy???

My husband constantly has a go at me about how I'm looking after our daughter... shes 6 months old but hes always having a go at how im looking after her.

We went to a playgroup the other day (just me and her) and she was sitting up and she fell over and banged her face and was crying. I was also in tears as it never happened before let alone in front of such an audience. I got home and told my husband and he said its my fault and I should have stopped her from falling. I was sat behind her but i just wasn't quick enough to catch her.

This evening I was changing her to her night clothes and she's going through a fussy phase where she cries when changing her clothes. According to wonder weeks is normal for this fussy phase but he comes in and checks on what im doing to her like im doing something wrong... I was then holding her when closing the blinds to wind down for the night and again I am wrong as I should have gave her to him so I could close the blinds with 2 hands...

There are a million and one other things I can rant about... but he constantly threatens to get legal action saying I am losing my mind and he has no confidence in me looking after our daughter...

Am I really such an awful mother??

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Nah he’s being a knob. Totally normal stuff

Also if he’s threatening legal action tell him to fuck right off. What an awful thing to be saying. Sounds like you need to book a weekend away and let him be a pro and see how far he gets

He sounds like a bell end to be honest..ive had 3 kids..they fall they get bumps its life..if he doesnt trust you why did he have a baby with you in the first place the moron..he'd probably shit himself if he got full custody

Oh babe I’m sorry you got so upset at her bumping her head! I remember being hysterical the first few bumps my son had, but you soon learn you can’t stop every single one! You sound like you’re doing a fab job and he’s being completely unfair and it’s uncalled for. Stand up for yourself lovely, you’re doing great. I guarantee your baby will have plenty of bumps whilst in dads care too, no one in perfect!!!

Sorry to hear that. And not your fault, failing happens a lot. My son has a few falls and now he’s 1 (just turned) he still plays and carries on as normal. Your partner is useless. Maybe leave him with HIS daughter and see if he can handle it himself.

Honestly, nothing you described is wrong. Babies fall, it happens to everyone. You were right there, you just couldn’t catch her in time—that’s completely normal.
The way he’s reacting though… blaming you, checking what you’re doing, making you feel like you’re doing things wrong all the time—that’s not normal. That’s not support.
You’re not losing your mind. You sound like a caring mum who’s doing her best.
I don’t know… reading this just made me wonder if this is a one-off, or if there are other moments where you’re made to feel like you’re doing things wrong too. Just something to think about 🤍
I’m here for you too.

He sounds like his being a knob head.
I do generally hope you’re ok as that must be taking its toll on you. It’s sounds very controlling. I would leave baby with him for the day and see what happens. He might find it’s not so easy when he has to do it all himself. Accidents happen, the babies and children and there learning to explore. My LG stood up tonight while bathing her brother and fell over. Not anyone’s fault and I was keeping an eye she just moved and lost balance. Son has massive graze over face from falling off bike. Hubby so used to him always getting in accidents didn’t noticed until brushing come out. You’re doing a bloody amazing job and don’t forget that. Please as above if there is anything else there are people on here and support groups if you need them. 🩷

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